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Diamond86 12/15/2018

i found out recently that my father touched my cousin 30 years ago when she was only 5. My question is is it wrong of me to still want a relationship with my father after hearing he did that? what would you do? i know its the past, and i also dont condone what he may have done. it makes me so sick to my stomach.

thank you

tonisora 12/15/2018

That's a tough one. I would take some time to think about it. Do some journaling. Sort our your feelings. Sounds like it's pretty new information. 30 years is a long time. Does he feel regret about it? Is it something you could talk to him about?

That's a really hard one. Best to you. I don't think I would be able to talk to him for a while till I accepted the info.

patti22 12/15/2018

YOU did nothing wrong.

It's biologically hardwired into us to attach to our parents. A thousand years ago, a child left behind was a dead child. So no...it's not wrong.

It is unbelieveably hard though.

Big, big, big, big hugs

Swimfast33 12/15/2018

I think it is up to you to decide, you know yourself the most and your father. It is weird timing that she brings it up now too. In all those 30 years she never decided to tell her parents friends??
I was young when it happened to me and when I was a toddler they did not listen but later when it happened again in kindergarten I told parents and this time they heard. It is normal for kids to speak especially when it was their parent. Totally different living with abuser I know as they keep up the threats.
Not sure if this helps but hug to you

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