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The biggest piece of advice I get from people who don't have PTSD is, "Avoid all your triggers."
Exactly how feasible is this???
I can see some triggers for some people - like loud noises, or certain places - but I don't have that luxury. I work with people every day. I don't control them. Things get loud. People yell. Occasionally I have to break up fights. All of this stuff doesn't exactly help keep me calm, you know? Not only that, but a huge trigger for me for the longest time was RED PICKUP TRUCKS. How do you avoid those exactly? I just don't get this...
But I can't possibly be the only person out there who has this problem.
So... Avoid your triggers... Easier said than done? Is it really that good for getting past the trauma? Is it better to just deal with things as they come?
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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First, I hope everyone is doing well, and continuing to fight that good fight! Keep up the great work on yourselves; I'm rooting for all of you!So, I started doing therapy at the beginning of the year, when I was in my most depressed state, but with my therapist, I made big changes and steps in the right direction. But, over a month ago, she couldn't take my insurance anymore, and I had to stop...
You are not alone, PinkGnome. I, too, find trigger avoidance easier said than done and join you in believing it is better to take the proverbial bull by the horns and therapute rather than avoid.
For what it's worth:
I first learned "Trigger Warning" to mean *I* am triggered, fragile and in need of extra support. Handle with care. It never occurred to me that I could predict somebody else's triggers. But. . . That was a live Veteran's support group and many digital generations ago.
I'm a high school teacher in an at-risk (borderline 'inner city') school. Gang involvement is relatively low, but that's because we've only merged two schools. The kids are still wildly out of hand this year.
It frustrates me a little because I see kids at school getting passes and special treatment for anxiety disorders - they can't be sat near the front of the room, they have to leave classes early to avoid the hall, they are automatically exempted from certain assignments, they are allowed to have headphones and be on their electronics whenever so that they can calm down from any trigger, they get their schedules completely rearranged if they feel at all uncomfortable - but here I am, their teacher, and I cannot get any of that. I have a student who was arrested for forcing himself on another student at school and attacking the cop that arrested him, and the kid was still allowed back to school. As if that's not stressful for any teacher, let alone someone like me.
Like I said, one of my triggers is red trucks. I can't live my life not driving anywhere. I live in the MidWest, about fifteen miles from the nearest city. I have to drive. I have to face my student. I have to deal with real life. There's no magical IEP or pass to let me off the hook, but that is all anyone tells me. "Avoid your triggers." I don't think anyone really understands just how unreasonable that is.
I think there's avoiding triggers and then there's dealing with them. Some triggers need to be avoided. Some need to be dealt with. I shouldn't have to face that student every single day, but I have to. That's a trigger that needs to be dealt with.
I dunno. Maybe this is more of a rant than anything else. It's just really frustrating.
Here's a link to an American Psychological Association article online describing what my PTSD therapist guided me through.
https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/prolonged-exposure.aspx
In my case, it even involved returning overseas to the site of multiple traumas I went through as a civilian in years of combat.
It really worked for me. I attribute lots of it to the fact that my therapist was specifically a PTSD therapist, not just a general therapist. I'd had those before and they didn't help much. His work with me as a PTSD specialist made all the difference. I recommend working with one.
Some kids really truly need them, but others...