You encountered a couple of real sickos. Please don't think that this incident is any indication of what life has in store for you in the future.

You would be completely justified in getting a lawyer in your area who works on contingency (you pay nothing, and your legal fees would be paid by the party you sue) and sue Walmart for a lot of money so that they won't let their security guards attack the victim of such a crime again.

Just a personal opinion: I think security guards are some of the lowest scum on earth, and I have had many bad experiences with them myself as a law-abiding person.

It was more the police department then Walmart that treated me like shit. Calling me a raged woman who needed to control my anger. Like I walk around hitting people. To best honest I have never hit anyone before.

...In a simplistic sense, in order for any traumatic experience to be processed, it must be felt by the right brain, then analyzed, interpreted, and understood by the left brain. Otherwise, a traumatized person may relive an event over and over again without examining it and coming to terms with what it means.

http://www.thebody.com/content/art48754.html

had i known this when 'the' event happened to me i would have tried to talk about it more. i didnt. the event occurred in 2006. a trigger can make me feel like im right that 2006 today.

i suggest u talk it out with a professional, best wishes

a trigger can make me feel like im right back in that 2006 event today.

This would qualify for me as a moment where rage would be appropriate.

But, no, this is not what the rest of your life will be like. Healing happens.

heal well, proudaunt. Sorry you had to endure this.

Good for you. And no this isn't the way the rest of your life will be. You stood up. Bastard was arrested. Things will change now.

It's the worst when your response to an attack is then turned against you. That then becomes the second attack. I'm only glad that the tape vindicated you. Sometimes these attackers are smarter and carry out such assaults in places that have no cameras. This one was not only a sicko, but a dumb one, too. Unfortunately, the officer you had to deal with wasn't the brightest, either, but the camera didn't lie and for that much I say good for you. Hope you can feel safe out shopping again before too long.

it is beyond the imagination how sick and wrong and violating the guy was, and i'm really sorry that happened to you.

hopefully the judge makes an example of him and throws the book at this caveman hard. yuck!!!

Sounds like your instincts were spot on to me. My reaction would have been quite similar if not exactly the same and I think that would be justified.

What would the police have rather you done? Nothing? That's rediculous.

I dont know a lot about fighting against the police but maybe there is some channel to go through to report the cops behavior. The effectiveness would really depend on their higher ups, but its better to try.

Really though focus on what you need to do to feel secure. Walmart is one of those almost unavoidable places (unavoidable that is without significant effort at least around here). Try not to let those two stinking kids and their actions take that away from you. I know easier said than done. Maybe something that could help would be to remind yourself how many times you go out and nothing happens. Breathing excersizes? You get where Im going with this.

Sorry you are in this situation. I dont know any woman who would be ok with that happening.

OH MY GOD !!!

Criminal Sexual Assault, plain and simple.

Which is far and away bad enough.

The rest .... is the savage unfairness of blaming the victim, minimizing the situation, and pushing us further down into our holes.

Is this what the REST of your life will be like ??

No. Almost certainly not.

But it sure feels like that, right now, doesn't it ??

Which .... is yet another reason why we're all here.

I applaud your response. You did NOT "curl up and die," and you DID bring in the authorities.

You did good. You did REAL good.

May some part of this process, at SOME time, help restore YOUR sense of strength, of power, of control.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, but I'm so proud of you for how you handled yourself.

Now, the task is for you to be proud of yourself, take CARE of yourself, and see this thing through, the best way you can.

Gentle (and only TOTALLY appropriate) hugs......

Thanks for all your support. l feel dirty and used. Had trouble walking into Wegmans with out having a panic attack. I stood almost on top of my Mom. My nightmares now show a full on rape. I have seen my therapist twice and she has been wonderful. This is going to set me back in therapy. As much as I hate him, I am angrier at her for standing there laughing, Lots of hugs needed

Wegmans is my grocery store

im so sorry what happened but so glad that you standed up for yourself

take care and be proud of yourself

there was a lady (about 18 years old) who was attacked at walmart here in the parking lot not very long ago. she was in the parking lot at ten p.m. and was robbed and beaten by three men. she has a black eye from it.
i try to avoid walmart....especially at night.
there have been no arrests yet to my knowledge.
sorry this happened to you. :/

I'm sorry for the aftershocks you're having. Totally understandable, as I've had them too after incidents like yours. Glad you have a good therapist. I wish id didn't affect even grocery shopping right now, but I hear how it does. May that pass soon.

" I would love to take credit for being strong by hitting him. I never thought about hitting him, I just did. I am so thankful for your support, as I am getting more heat from other people. Saying things like well "why did you hit him" and "some people would be happy to still it" I have nothing I am size 16 and 41 years old. He didn't do it for my looks he did it because he is an ass.

Walmart sent me a beautiful card with the kindness words. They apologized for it ever happening and that I was questioned. They included a $250 gift card and got a call from company VP. This is a great Walmart wonderful friendly service in good neighborhood.