Its different for each individual. Theres no kinda set time.

I have 2 major aniversarys in a year. I struggle around 1- 2 months before i know its coming and again 2 months after. I hope this becomes less as i work on it.

Diffetent for everyone. Hugs

I've found it's kind of like grief. There is no set timeline. you go with it until one day you realize the reaction wasn't as strong as it usually is or it hasn't crossed your mind until you look at the date.
Most of mine are in December. I usually throw myself into an enjoyable activity to help cut down on anxiety.

Thank you!! I'm treading through it!!

I intentionally don't know the date of several big events in my life. Maybe it's partly denial? IDK.

As others have said, I think it's all individual.

I'll put out a little extra good wishes for you on that day, Patti

i don't know dates or years either; i've dissociated them.

sending comforting thoughts for you, Lilly

I provision for my Anniversary Days. They are tough for me, too. I still can't predict how long the anniversary side effects will be, much less how long they will last, but a plan of action seems to make ^it^ all go smoother. My current preparation goes as follows.

1) Arrange for back-up. I let my most trusted peer supporters know that an anniversary is coming and they check in on me often while I process.

2) Self-care supplies. I make sure I am well stocked on comfort items like good, easy fix food and drinks, candles, bath oils, hobby supplies, etc.

3) Therapy tools. Meditation readers, grounding materials, etc.

Gentle support while you ride it out, RA. We are here for you, if you need us. Cyber-backup?

I have several trauma anniversaries coming up myself so I know how tough it can be. Arfie has given you some great advice so I can't add much more except to practice extra self care at these times and to remember its not happening now. Hugs.

Best, Manda XXX