Sean:

Your post is heartbreaking. There is absolutely know way anyone can justify what has happened to you and your family. I'm not good at taking my own advice, but I would say to you to be gentle on yourself. Take each day slowly and if you don't feel like going out -- don't. That's not to say that you don't need to start to heal and go on with your life, it's only to say that you have a right to grieve all that has happened. It should not have happened, and your are right to feel angry, sad, mystified and many other natural emotions. I hope that you and your wife are doing o.k. Having PTSD was very hard on my husband at first, but in the end has brought us much closer together.

Hugs and Love,
ClairI

Well with all i have been through. I dont see people or places as safe..(part of PTSD).Home is my safest place but I still find myself in hypervigilance locking doors keeping lights on when im alone.

I go out because i have to survive..Shoping i have to have a cart to keep people at a distance. Work has been hard..I have rules that i have to follow to make myself comfortable and calm.. Ied rather hide under a rock but its not healthy for me..I have to learn to funtion around people and places.

With all that has happend to all of us its amazing that you find ways to move on yet i know a few of us are house bound....Trust is the main issues...after you have been so violated i dont trust i keep my guard up all the time...but try to fit myself into Normal every day situations i dont want to be in ( if that makes any sense) I got to force it it does not come naturaly for me.

Anyway thats How I work around going out into the world

I was thinking people with PTSD are, and i mean this as almost a compliment, we're like wild animals vs domesticated animals in the sense that our senses are heighted, we perceive danger and are highly sensitive to others and our surroundings, so trust your gut feelings..Oh well not very good advice, but that'show i feel and since i'm hypervigilant that's how i feel..

There are bad people in this world. They aren't limited to the normal sitautions we would expect. Alot of people are hurt by the ones most close to them.
Church and schools can be dangerous places sometimes. The adults there are in a position for young naive children to trust them, so it's easy for them to be taken advantage of them. It happens all the time and it shouldn't.
The world feels like a dangerous place when things like this happen. The only thing i could suggest is to not go back to that church and to keep her away from her brother. Make sure she gets help.

It takes a lot to finally come to the realization that the world has good people in it, and that we were victimized by people who CHOSE to do bad things to us.

I was molested by a person of the church, and it has taken me 20 years to go back to church again. I had a lot of hatred for God and for the church, but somehow was able to see my situation for what it really is.....ONE person making a horrible mistake. God only knows how many times she made that horrible mistake.....

I know the world now seems like an unsafe place to you and your family. A large part of having PTSD is not knowing when situations are safe....either thinking a situation is safe, when it isn't, or thinking a situation is unsafe, when it really is.

Hugs.

I agree with all that was said above AND i think the idea is that we're supposed to learn to feel safe and empowered within ourselves so we feel we can handle whatever may happen in the outside world while still being aware ... this is not the same as being hypervigilent all the time. this is my challenge ... as i learned in india "Trust in God AND tie up your camel" ...

I think I understand wher you are coming from.....

With this, how can you move, enrich your life if you are not willing to trust and take a huge risk and not try?

Not everyone in this world is bad. That's what I believe, otherwise I woudn't be able to continue and move forward. Possibly, you are not there yet. That's ok.

Best wishes & just trying to help xxx

I am so sorry, about your situation. I have just written a post that the truth that sets us free may help u.

My son and I are anointed, we are the two or more in Him and Lord Jesus Christ saw the abuse we go through, the earth's church system is not right in Lord Jesus Christ and there are wolves in sheep's clothing devouring the flocks. Its about discernment.

My heart is so touched for u and your family. It is about bringing His safe place in your sanctuary and refuge in your own home, which is your heart mind and soul in Him, in Christ please look at John 14:20-1. . We have our home church, ministery and we love it. Most of the time we have the two or more, which is Lord Jesus Christ and I and we have His Holy Comforter, I don't know what we would do without Him, and He rescues us. And we have been preparing for the time our ministry will come out but we are still unseen and in His rest.

Think upon this, every Christian's home is meant to be a church a
and household of God where He and love resides. We have His sanctuary because He gives it to us, He is our safe place and refuge. And my son and I have moved into an amazing place at the moment. We have peace, quiet and being left alone. My issue now is my throat is swelling up and I can not get the specialist help I need. but my Lord Jesus Christ is giving me claming peace and patience through it all. When I panic, He gives me then calm and then I become tire. I am being ministered to by Him.

And U can too....know that those people are not right in God and the light needs to come on and the truth come into it that sets everyone free and healing can come and no one else will have to go through it and everyone dealt with the way it needs to be.

Have a blessed day in Christ, and if u want to write to me u can.

He will never leave u, nor forsake u, for when u went through it all, He went through it all with u.

Peace be with u,

Peaceful Co.