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a slap in the face.

irishwriter
irishwriter

I have cptsd and a few years ago i confronted my brother for abuse. at the time he was dating a friend of mine and i hadn't told her that he was my abuser and by the time it all came out she deleted me as her friend and i lost her and all her family and a whole group of friends where i live. One of her sister remained friends with me as she was dating another brother of mine who subsequently took an overdose in my house (i found him almost dead) and he ended up quadriplegic. she hung in there for several monthes and we went through a lot together and then the fool broke up with her and i couldn't understand why. I was devastated at her loss too. he (my brother) finally told me last year that when the cop from my home town was doing his investigations he called in her sister and her son for a chat. her nephew was about 14 at the time and they were all furious. I was even more furious. I made contace with her and asked her how could she have not know me well enough (either of the sisters) to know that all it would have taken was one call to me and i would have stopped this interview as it was completely irrelevant to my case. her response was that she was too angry. the woman who dated my brother was my friend before she dated him as was her sister and both of them and their children meant a lot to me. I am devastated that they did not trust that or me and that i have lost both my hometown family and all of them here as well. anyway i found out this week that Anne the one who was dating my abusive brother is now in an established friendship with my exhusband who she knows is a rapist. now that is just another kick in the teegh. she obviously just thinks i'm a liar about the whole story.

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Gentle hug sweetie..... This is a good board..... I'm glad that you're here

You have been through a lot and I'm sorry that you've been 'punished' for the actions of your brother as well as been a victim

Peoples 'perceptions' are their reality unfortunately even when they aren't always true

I hope that one day the truth will come out Irish..... Another hug and a blessing ......xo
arfie
arfie
I've heard it said that deception creates a tangled web, but I have often wondered if truth has tangled more webs than lies ever could. Just wondering. . .

The big for sure is it sounds like you're caught in one hell of a tangled web. Gentle empathy and support while you sort it out, Irish. Keep venting.
LillyPotter
LillyPotter
i'm feeling so much empathy with you for this incredible amount of pain you're being caused by no fault of your own, (((((irish)))))

wishing hugs could buffer the pain away, but perhaps understanding can do something typed hugs cannot. i'm so sorry for this pain and the horrible tangle that is cptsd; i have it too.

we are here, you are not alone with this xo
Scottyk
Scottyk
Godbless you!
irishwriter
irishwriter
thanks for all the support.idon't know about anyone else but i am finding things very difficult with the #me too , all the talk about abuse and rape and in ireland all this talk about the upcoming repeal of the 8th ammendment referendum (centered around rape & aubse) where the pro choice people are using these two reasons all the time as reasons for automatic abortion. There's more to it than that. I have a child from rape and i remain convinced that the pregnancy was a gift from something awful. the nightmares are unrelenting and i am getting very little sleep even with meds.
arfie
arfie
Political debates make mean triggers in my own psych management. Listening to the debates feels an awful lot like somebody wiggling dirty fingers in my most sensitive wounds. When an especially sensitive personal issue hits the political arena, I ply evasive maneuvers with pro therapy approval. Those wounds/decisions are not up for vote. I don't owe anybody an explanation.

Hope you get a restorative rest tonight, Irish.
Jillsaundars
Jillsaundars
Yes people really are bastards when it comes to disclosing

Obviously rapists do it for this woman, let her carry on!

You've done the right thing and told, you've swept your side of the street

Unfortunately now you are aware of rape culture, victim blaming and people preferring the rapist over Jesus!!!

Fuck them all, go ahead and live happy away from them all
BlueSky
BlueSky
Wow, I can't believe your friends left you hanging... and would rather stick up for abusers / rapists! I thought any woman with common sense would run from that. *facepalm*

All I can say is, He must have better plans for you.
irishwriter
irishwriter
I was so exhausted last night that i caved and cut on my arm and it provided such a release that I slept for thirteen hours straight after weeks of getting only a couple of hours/day. this morning I thought 'there has to be a better way to get some sleep'. i'll talk to the doc today. sleep meds and melatonin so far have been giving me the few hours i've been getting. I cut a few weeks ago but prior to that I had been 'clean' for over a year or so.i think and I don't want to fall down into that particular hole again. I'm changing GP's this week. I've been speaking to the new guy over the last number of weeks and he's much more up to date and he said if I switch to him he would insist on seeing me at least once/week and we would do a complete review of my meds and work on a plan to get me out of my house a little bit at a time. also he's just across the road from me and my current guy is twenty mins away and almost impossible to see and usually i'm unable to leave the house even once/month to go get my script and they just fax it to my local pharmacy. I'm hoping to go see current GP tomorrow and let him know and set the paperwork in motion so you guys can wish me luck. hope that i can actually get there.
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