Intense anger and extreme anxiety were the the only emotions in my life for a long time, the rest of the time numb depression......so angry I would have hellacious outbursts, so powerful I was in another state of mind they were overwhelming. Especially triggered by loud noises, screaming.....

I have found meditation, prayer and exercise work really well for my anger and anxiety. I haven't had a major outburst for awhile and my anxiety level over all is way down.

Since my set back, i have also gotten the irrational anger back. Just went off yesterday. I know that I am over reacting, but when I come to the point of decision should I use those beep words? I decide to go ahead and act the fool. I agree that the anger is a symptom of a fear or a hurt. Am afraid that I will be back having to just take the crap or get into worse situation trying to confront the crap. Am trying to confront rationally but don't always make it. Journaling does help. Trying to let some time between confronting and working my way around the anger cycle helps. but yesterday I made it out of the office where I got upset, but made the confrontational call back and then got irrational. Today I spent part of my day trying to salvage the situaiton and bring focus to the outcome I really want and how to best treat people. Perhaps my friend's t-shirt is what I do need: CSI: Can't Stand idiots! LOL I don't really want to live that way or believe that, but in the moment... I truly believe that everyone has wonderful, unique gifts they bring to a situation. But some times the notion that they have chosen to be a personal obstacle to me just because they can tips me over the edge. I do my best to agree whenever possible, dodge if not, and when I have to, ask a question to make a point. thanks for all the info here. It's great to have this site to come to.

I tend to think I don't have anger. Though it looks like it, I am often embaressed by it.
Do you mean confused as in, the entitlement to your own anger or, you don't know if it's anxious anger, or whether you're in control of yourself or not?