I just got news from my 1st best friend Danny that my 2nd best friend Deb died.
Danny, Deb, and I got our doctorates together in 1988. We've stayed in touch ever since. Later, when I was a program director at a university, I hired Deb full time in my department. Later, instead of having a "best man" at my wedding, Deb was my "best man." Later, Deb and I went on a research trip to Central America together and co-authored a research journal article about it. We never dated, Deb was just my 2nd best friend, after Danny, who was my grad school roommate. We were in touch right up until the end, most recently about seeing rock bands we both liked.
That's why I'm so shocked at losing her. She had retired to Costa Rica, and next year I'm retiring to Mexico, so I was looking forward to reconnecting south of the border again as we'd done in the past. Her mom's still alive and in her 90s, so Deb's sudden death is odd to us all. Her family is known for longevity. We don't know, but we wonder if her cause of death wasn't coronavirus. Time will tell.
I'm in shock and grief stricken, so it helps not to be alone. I'm estranged from all family due to PTSD, so folks like Deb have been my family. Support welcome.
Any one heard from S? She hasn't been on in a while which isn't like her. I'm very worried. Anyone please let me know if u know why she isn't here or if she's ok. I'm hoping ur ok S.
I had a trigger right before the pandemic and being quarantined. I live by myself with my ESA dog and am struggling to feel. I feel numb and recently was able to cry, but I know I still have so much pain in me. I can't talk to my main support, my parents as my father is in the hospital with COVID and my mom is stuck home, worried sick about him.I'm not able to work and not being able to see my...