Weekends would be my busy time, but I spend wa-a-a-ay too much time home alone during the week. Yes, I believe it gives my ghosts entirely too much time to start dancing in my head. I know better than to isolate to this extent.

As 51% said, it has more to do with my choices than the quality of my personhood. I am working on it. We are all works in progress. Small steps. Cliche, cliche.

May next weekend find you in good company...

I like being home alone on weekends. There's no people that I have to call every day to tell them I'm alive today (I do monday through friday), the free Meals on Wheels people don't come. I can sleep how I want. as often and at whatever time. I love silence. It helps bring down my brain chems when they're flaring up. I breathe in the air, do meditative, mindful things....I like it.

I wish people would stop calling things "triggers." It frghtens a person. Call it a wisp of a memory, or a uneasy feeling in your body/mind that you are interested in getting to know what it is. How we label things is critically important.

You are a good person. Enjoy your peace when you have the change. And dig into yourself when you're ready. If you're not ready, tell whatever it is to "Go Away." It works if you say it assuredly, firmly and without fear. Come again some other day when I feel like dealing with you.

Much caring coming your way, and positive thoughts of health, healing and renewal.

Being alone does not mean you are a bad person!

Even Jesus had times when he was alone. Its what we do and believe during our a lone time that changes our perception of being a lone. In Matthew 14:23 sets an example for us of what we can do in our alone time. ...Jesus went up on a mountain by Himself to pray; and when it was evening, He was there alone.

The God of the Universe reminds us of His heart for us in Jeremiah 33:3 Call to Me and I will answer you, and I will tell you great and mighty things, which you do not know.

There has never been a promise from God that we will not have problems in this world. However, God promises that He will never leave us or forsake us in our times of trouble. Sometimes in my despair it is hard to believe this, but I know and have experienced the love of God whom sustains me and comforts me in my fear.

It is in my solitude that I find my rest in Him. I am not trying to be a preachy kind of person. I just know how God has given me peace in the most traumatic memories of my past when I am alone.

Time to volunteer, take a course, or join a group. Only we can choose to be alone. The world is a wonderful place full of wonder and enjoyment, but we are responsible for going out and finding it. Voluteering can be an amazing experience and very helpful in your recovery. I volunteer for a mental health non-profit here in town and I love it. I am just doing data input and filing, but I am really enjoying it and it gives me a feeling of doing something useful. You could also take a course at your local school or university. Getting out and being with people is very important. You may have to force yourself for the frist little while, but it will get easier. When I first started volunteering I did not want to go and had anxiety but I continued to force myself and now I miss it so much when I don't go.

I'm home alone most weekends, since now I live in a small city that's mostly families and I'm an old bachelor. Mostly I love it, because I thrive on independence, but I can admit that sometimes I have lonely times. I've found out that more people are alone or lonely than we think, you know? I've developed a sense of humor about it. There's a song called "Another S****y Saturday Night" I bought on iTunes that cracks me up with its hilarious lyrics when I'm feeling lonely, reminding me nothing's wrong with me and it happens to other people. I could change it if I wanted to, but I love my independence that much. Until this point in my life, I never had time alone and needed it, so I enjoy alone time as much as I can.

Getting involved/connected is both one of the most difficult things to do when you feel isolated and one of the most beneficial things also. The suggestion about doing volunteer work really helped me once I let go of all the reasons in my head about why I couldn't do it and over time, it led me to a place where I could interact with more and more people without so much fear and anxiety.

Exercise on a regular basis also helps with our brain/body chemistry which in turns influences both what thoughts we tend to have in our heads and how frequently they occur.

However, nobody can take steps for another person. Each of us have to take them ourselves. The best we can do is whisper gentle encouragements.

"Friends not only help you look for the light at the end of the tunnel, they bring the flashlight!"

I hope you find some amazing new friends, ladydi196

Yes i am but it doesn't bother me is by choice.

Weekends are my lowest points too. I find if I don't stay motivated on Saturday, by Sunday I am a heap of tears and depression.

Sometimes it takes a lot to break us out of our shell, but routines or planned activities can help. I hope you find something that works well for you soon. Best wishes always.

I decided that I needed a hobby and took up quilting. I go to classes and I've met quite a number of people there and am very comfortable with these people. It gives me most of my socialization. I don't see any of them outside of class, but I really enjoy being there. I also go to synagogue. I had a really really really hard time talking to folks after services, but now I know the regulars and so it's okay to chat with them. I'm still not totally comfortable, but a lot more than I used to be, I met someone this past spring and have become good friends with her and have spent a lot of time with her. One of the people I know from my quilting guild and I recently started getting together once a week and we have become good friends. It's worth trying stuff even if you are uncomfortable.