I'd find another doctor. My Nurse Practitioner has PCOS also and knows what it is like. I guess I lucked out.

I agree with Robin, find another doctor, I also have pcos and am overweight (240lbs) and my doctor has never mentioned my weight being even just a little bit of an issue. I wish I could help you out more than that.... if you want to talk send me a message.
Take care.

Hi...yes definately find another doctor. My doctor. as far as losing weight it is always healthy..solet's try it. You wont believe it but I have been cutting my portions by 1/4 and it is working...it's not hard . i don't feel hungry and I'm losing weight..maybe not as much as i WOULD LIKE TO BUT i LOST AT LEAST 6 POUNDS IN THE LAST 4 WEEKS...Good luck and take care

My dr said the same thing... sort of. After the exam she came back in and said, "Gena, you're too fat. You must loose weight." That was almost two months ago, and I weighed 266 then. I've since dropped down to 245 (gooooo meee!) I'm one of those dense people, if you don't say it bluntly I may not understand, and she knows that.

While it seems harsh she did have good intentions. Had I started fertility treatments at that weight then it wouldn't be long before I tipped the scale at 300. (fertility meds make me balloon) Being pregnant at that weight is hard (and potentinally dangerous) for mom and baby.

Drs are basically business people. Do a little bargining with your dr. "If I diet and work out for... six months, no matter how much weight I loose... you'll give me fertility meds I need. No questions asked, and no more nagging about my weight." Some drs and dense and need things to be said bluntly or they won't get it. :)

my doctor told me the same thing, that I needed to lose weight before he would even consider starting me on anything...that was a while ago and I gave up the fertility thing all together because I was so frustrated with the weight thing...I just recently set a goal for myself for weight and I am now down to 230 from 244 I have 10 lbs left to go before I will go back to the doctor, they say even losing 10% of your weight for me that was 24 lbs...is a huge help in helping the fertility meds along...hopefully that is true...if you ever need a weight loss buddy I will be here I am in the weight maintanance group too....they are helpful there! Thanks! and good luck!

Hi there Mrs. Haggard. I know that several people have said find a new doctor but I was at 212 and was refered to a Reproductive Endocrinologist. His first words were you need to lose weight. I was crushed. I thought what a jerk. However, I wanted a child badly and I was going to do whatever it took to get it. I followed his advice and I did lose 25 pounds. The day before I was to have an outpatient procedure I had to take a pg test to make sure that I wasn't pg before the operation and there was my positive pregnancy test that I had been waiting for. I think that for each woman it is different but the weight loss did make a difference for me. It gets you healthier and it's easier on your body to lose a little before you conceive. Just wanted to throw my two cents worth in!

I go to a RE and he has never mentioned my weight. He said the key is to just be healthy. He said not to try to kill myself to lose a few pounds b/c with PCOS it is very difficult. So I try to stick to lots of veggies and limit my sugar intake. Fertility meds have made me gain too which totally sucks. The main thing is not to get down about your weight. When you get depressed the weight piles on. In a perfect world we could do the normal diets and lose. GL and dont give up!

I had a Dr. that told me that if i didn't loose weight, than I would lose a baby if I was ever lucky enough to get pregnat. I have to admit the Dr. was right I did need to lose weight. So I was determined to lose it. I worked out every day and ate right. I worked my butt off and lost 20 lbs. I then waited for the long lost 'period' which i hardly ever got, i always need something (pravera) to stat it. Never came so I called the Dr. and he just said to keep doing what I was doing. Never perscribed the pill. I then lost more weight and called him back. He still wouldn't help me. I was getting angry with him. I then decided to find another Dr. I scheduled an appoinment with someone else. Long story short before I got to that Dr. I found out I was pregnat. And was pregnant when the first Dr. told me I would never get pregnat. I would have to say that loosing weight helped but even more importantly eating right and the metformin did the trick. I believe that loosing the weight helped me to ovulate. Well good Luck and Yes please find another DR. who knows more about PCOS

I was diagnosed with pcos when I was 15 yrs. old. I was overweight then, about 140 lbs. my doctor told me about pcos and said I could never have kids, period. Tough thing to hear when you're basically just a kid... his solution to everything was, "you'll have to take the birth control for quite a few years."
Now, my new doctor is working w/ me and some specialists to get thigs half way normal with my body, if I would have started when I was 15 I'd be a lot better now! Whatever you decide, make sure you're comfortable with your doctor. Living a healthier lifestyle is always BEST but it's very hard to lose a lot of weight when you have pcos, you have to have a lot of motivation and guts to change your life!

My Doctor did not say that to me in some many words and yet when I started to lose wieght he was super happy and thought that my chances of getting prenant would be better.

After reading a few books on PCOS I have come to understand why it is important for us to work on loosing weight. The extra fat cells create extra insulin and estrogen which makes it harder for women with PCOS to ovulate. So as much as it sucks to hear that we need to loose weight there is some truth to it. I know that it is harder for us to loose the weight and yet it is so worth it. I myself have lost 41 pounds in the past 4 months and I have another 44 to go.

Good luck and all the best!

I was up near 120 and i've manage to lose 37kgs i'm down to 83 kgs, i'll be more than happy to tell you what dite i'm on and give you the surrport you need so get back to me when you like after all if we carn't help each other then whats the use of this sight. I never tend to pay attention my doc but i found out that herbal medicene is the best so far.So drop a line mate when your comfortable

i see a lot of folks saying to change doctors, and you may want to. but first, are you any meds to control the PCOS? metformin, actos, anything? those can help to control "symptoms" of PCOS (high insulin and blood sugar levels, cholesterol, testosterone, etc). Some people even lose weight on them. While it has not helped me lose weight, i have gone from needing meds to control my cholesterol and triglicerides to now being "normal" and my insulin and blood sugar and A1c have all come back down to normal.

So while losing weight may be a good choice for you, there are some things you can do in addition to that to help you "heal" physically as a whole.

Good luck! And I can be a buddy if you want. I need one too! :)

I went to an RE also and he has never mentioned for me to loose weight. I'm 5'10 and I weight 248... YICKS I know and I try but he never once mentioned it. He did say that I should loose some being on the Metformin and it wouldn't be a bad thing!!! Good Luck girls I know it is a everyday battle to loose weight, as I sit here eating Chinese for lunch, but we can do it!!!!

If you comfortable with your doctor talk with him/her. My doctor wanted me too loose weight only because we began fertlity treatments. they say if you loose 5% of your body weight it will be better for you during pregnancy. The thing is its really hard for someone with PCOS to loose weight, though not impossible. i started drinking water, and eating more protein, and lost 20lbs. also if you can walk like 20min a day it helps too. I don't think your really overweight though as i'm now back up to 238lbs. Just go with what you feel is right. God bless

Yes I was diagnosed at 19. I'm 21. I did some research on it. Try exercising for at least 30 minutes to an hour. whether it's walking, riding bike, swimming,ect. Find something that you like to do and do it. Stretching counts, even, a form of martial arts like tai chi. Older people use it and it is very helpful. I weigh 274lbs. I am having a hard time losing the weight myself. Another thing is dieting ( eating smaller proportions,) exercising and if you want ask your doctor to prescribe you some weight loss pills to help lose the extrta weight.