Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So, if some of you have read my previous posts, you know that I am with a man that was physically and emotionally abusive with me in the past, for the duration of our 18 years of marriage.
However, after our last attempt for separation, things really turned around for the better, since last August. Yet, I still bring up issues from the past, and it hurts the both of us. The smallest, non-related events (like a friend's wedding) can remind me of things that happened. It is so unhealthy!!!! I feel that emotionally I am stuck in an infinite loop, and how do I get out of it?
However, after our last attempt for separation, things really turned around for the better, since last August. Yet, I still bring up issues from the past, and it hurts the both of us. The smallest, non-related events (like a friend's wedding) can remind me of things that happened. It is so unhealthy!!!! I feel that emotionally I am stuck in an infinite loop, and how do I get out of it?
If I ask him for the time and space to heal I k ow we can't afford that financially. So it really is an innor out situation.
I think this is basically your choice. Stay with him and be miserable, always wishing you weren't with him, not being able to love him, not forgetting the past and feeling like he's an anchor around your neck. Or, leave him and have the chance to have a happy life where you put the past behind you.