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.....when they have friends. I have heard this saying all my life, but...
I just now really got it, driven home in grand form!
A person that I have, for the last couple of years, viewed as one of my closest friends just seriously betrayed me.
I trusted her with most of my life story, most of the shit between me and th stbx, and well, all my tears, pain and everything in between.
I had heard from a few mutual friends that she talked behind my back, but small town mentality, peope talk, I kind of let it go.
Then last Friday, she said something weird to me, that her feelings were hurt because someone she knew added me as a friend on Facebook. I have 3 friends on my Facebook because she mentioned them or I met them in person through her. I never even talk to these people. I did talk to the one that just added me because he asked how I knew one of the other guys and I said, I don't, just through a friend and never talked to him after that.
I wake up two days later and apparently she went through my entire friend list and asked ALL of them to be her friend. Not that I care, but it was all just starting to seem a bit psycho to me.
I made the decision that at this low point in my life, I don't need drama and made the decision to cut her out of my life. I let a couple of mutual friends know of my decision, and even sent a message to the ex who I have had no contact with warning him that I did so, and that I felt it necessary to let them know because I am not sure this woman is stable at this point.
My daughter (who still had her on her Facebook) told me about the following status this "friend" left: "I am cutting the people from my life that want to hurt me. Will not be around people that are fake. I want nothing to do with the "attention seekers". the woman that has to try and have every mans attention and the only reason she gets it from them is b/c they know she will do anything b/c she has no morals. I pray for her. Bad girl!"
Bad enough - about an hour later, the stbx contacts me...asks if I got his email, which I hadn't, so I checked. This woman wrote my ex, about how I am a hypocrite, been drinking, smoking and sleeping with every guy in the clubs, eating pork, teaching my kids inappropriate things and that she is just trying to be a good muslim woman, ask for his forgiveness and that he try to help me.
Ok, so I know this is a long enough vent, but I was livid. All of this was straight out lies, such a betrayal. I could say so much about this woman, her lifestyle, etc. and I never once have and won't, not even now because it is just WRONG!
When I say that I am going to stick with just me and my kids for quite some time, I have to mean it. It is so hard to be kicked when you are down and then kicked again when you are down.
I just now really got it, driven home in grand form!
A person that I have, for the last couple of years, viewed as one of my closest friends just seriously betrayed me.
I trusted her with most of my life story, most of the shit between me and th stbx, and well, all my tears, pain and everything in between.
I had heard from a few mutual friends that she talked behind my back, but small town mentality, peope talk, I kind of let it go.
Then last Friday, she said something weird to me, that her feelings were hurt because someone she knew added me as a friend on Facebook. I have 3 friends on my Facebook because she mentioned them or I met them in person through her. I never even talk to these people. I did talk to the one that just added me because he asked how I knew one of the other guys and I said, I don't, just through a friend and never talked to him after that.
I wake up two days later and apparently she went through my entire friend list and asked ALL of them to be her friend. Not that I care, but it was all just starting to seem a bit psycho to me.
I made the decision that at this low point in my life, I don't need drama and made the decision to cut her out of my life. I let a couple of mutual friends know of my decision, and even sent a message to the ex who I have had no contact with warning him that I did so, and that I felt it necessary to let them know because I am not sure this woman is stable at this point.
My daughter (who still had her on her Facebook) told me about the following status this "friend" left: "I am cutting the people from my life that want to hurt me. Will not be around people that are fake. I want nothing to do with the "attention seekers". the woman that has to try and have every mans attention and the only reason she gets it from them is b/c they know she will do anything b/c she has no morals. I pray for her. Bad girl!"
Bad enough - about an hour later, the stbx contacts me...asks if I got his email, which I hadn't, so I checked. This woman wrote my ex, about how I am a hypocrite, been drinking, smoking and sleeping with every guy in the clubs, eating pork, teaching my kids inappropriate things and that she is just trying to be a good muslim woman, ask for his forgiveness and that he try to help me.
Ok, so I know this is a long enough vent, but I was livid. All of this was straight out lies, such a betrayal. I could say so much about this woman, her lifestyle, etc. and I never once have and won't, not even now because it is just WRONG!
When I say that I am going to stick with just me and my kids for quite some time, I have to mean it. It is so hard to be kicked when you are down and then kicked again when you are down.
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wow. i am sorry that she just went overboard. You can block her on facebook to where she isn't able to see any of your posts even thru friends. just bring her up on facebook, scroll to the bottom of the screen on the left side you will see block/report. click on it and click the block one. That wil keep her from seeing it . I had to do this with my stbx. i really wish i had the answers for you other than the blocking her on fb. (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
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