Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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Just an update - I am moving forward w the divorce. Papers have been sent to the Marshall and my husband will b served someday this week.
We're going thru so much right now and as I share my story about my husbands behavior, I'm receiving a lot of support and hearing others' stories of how horrible their husbands have been and yet they're still married. Why? IS THIS NORMAL "husband" behavior? If I were stronger and had better boundaries, couldn't I just tell him off and be done w it and remain married and move past it? Afterall, this IS what my husband keeps telling me too.
Don't get me wrong, I can clearly see how selfish he has become over the years and how he doesn't reflect inward to see and own up to his own issues - but it still makes me question why so many others are married to a man who is - "just like your husband", "they're all the same", etc.
Throughout my marriage when I felt so in love with my husband, he did still do things that annoyed me, as I'm sure I annoyed him as we'll, and my girlfriends would commiserate w each other but - jokingly. And it seemed all in good fun.
I'm NOT judging others, I am honestly just trying to understand. What the hell happened?!
We're going thru so much right now and as I share my story about my husbands behavior, I'm receiving a lot of support and hearing others' stories of how horrible their husbands have been and yet they're still married. Why? IS THIS NORMAL "husband" behavior? If I were stronger and had better boundaries, couldn't I just tell him off and be done w it and remain married and move past it? Afterall, this IS what my husband keeps telling me too.
Don't get me wrong, I can clearly see how selfish he has become over the years and how he doesn't reflect inward to see and own up to his own issues - but it still makes me question why so many others are married to a man who is - "just like your husband", "they're all the same", etc.
Throughout my marriage when I felt so in love with my husband, he did still do things that annoyed me, as I'm sure I annoyed him as we'll, and my girlfriends would commiserate w each other but - jokingly. And it seemed all in good fun.
I'm NOT judging others, I am honestly just trying to understand. What the hell happened?!
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That's the frustrating part for me right now. Being so obsessed with thoughts and feelings about him, about our marriage both past and present. I still cry every day. Not all day every day, but every day. I wish I could offer you some wisdom and advice, but I can't really...just putting one foot in front of the other and trying to get through the days. Just know you're not alone. I'm here with you. Hugs.
Thank you for all the strength and encouragement. It is so sad and yet comforting to know others get it and can really understand what I'm feeling. This is definitely one of those things that you have to experience to truly understand.
Wiggy - we do seem to be on the same path right now. The crying is cathartic but exhausting. Please try and steal a few minutes to nap and rest up. It does wonders. I know it's hard when you work and if you have children (I'm sorry I can't recall if you do) but you need to take care of yourself too. Be kind to yourself.
Sending strength and hugs,