Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
you know I've been in right state. Well I still am. I haven't eaten or left my house since Wednesday. I have cried and cried and cried. I've missed my husband so much. Anyway he rings and I actually answered my phone because I have missed him. He wanted to know if there was any mail there for him. I said yes there was. And he asked could he pick it up. I said yes . I know I shouldn't have but I really needed to see his face. But didn't tell him that. I got myself looking nice and sat all evening waiting and he never came. I wascryingagain .That was Thursday.On Friday he calls and collects his mail. I didn't cry in front of hit but I did give him a hug. He asked how I was and left. He'd said he was going out Friday night but would give me a ring when he got home. Which he didn't. I lay awake all night waiting for that phone call that never came. This morning he calls up and I let him in. We chat and again I hugged him. He was cold towards me. I asked what was wrong and he said I'd hurt him by not taking his calls and he startedcrying. I held him and felt bad. Told him I hadn't been well. I then asked him if he was seeing anyone as we are separated. He said yes he had been. My heart felt broken. I said who is she ? And pretended it didn't hurt. He laughed and said one of your friends. I asked who and he said a name. Then he said she won'tleaveme alone she keeps calling. I was heartbroken and it showed. He then aid he was joking. That he had been seeing someone but I didn't know her. He then left after saying he was going out again tonight . When he left I cried buckets. And rang and rang the friend he mentioned because I felt I had to know for sure. She was annoyed. She said no way. I wouldn't do that to you. He's messing with your head. The sooner you get rid of him the better. But in in bits. I know I shouldn't have let him in. I've gone against everything I know and I feel ashamed to tell you all. But I needed to just see him. See how I felt. And this is the result. I'm so unhappy . He also said if by any chance I want him back he would have to think about it because I've hurt him and ignored his tears over the last few weeks. I don't know what's wrong with me. I can't eat I can'tsleepg just want him. How stupid am I?
Your waiting around for him, hanging on for him, and, the reason as to why he hates it if you are not available for him, because then your in the driving seat and to him, doing that (not being available) means do much more about power and control. He knows what psychologically it will do to someone and he doesn't want you to be status to be higher than him! He's pathetic Hun!
Stay strong.
You don't need to mean or hurtful, just take care of yourself... that is the healthy thing to do and you are worthy of health and self care!
Stay strong and if you need ears to listen you can write me here. I will listen anytime. Try to have a good day !