Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
...in the abuser.
I know the correct answer is 'nothing - cut and run'. But sometimes miracles happen. There's 1600+ members on this board. Certainly someone has a success story to share?
I managed to get my hubby into marital counseling, which is a huge step for him. But today we got kicked out (see my journal) cause he was not even seeing what the problem is. The thing is, the counselor was not even trying to make it clear to him. He relied on me explaining that abuse is unacceptable. But if my husband listened, we would not be in his office, right?
I don't think my husband is totally blind, just too proud to admit he's wrong, and too macho to admit there's something wrong with him, and to get treatment for his recurring depression (which is what I think made him abusive last year).
So... MEN: what could get you into treatment? What could get you to see a therapist? To change? What would get your macho(er) friends to change? WOMEN: What have you done that worked?
The only concrete advice I got was to withhold sex (from a male co-worker), and to lose weight (from my mom and a friend). I have a policy against withholding sex, no matter the reason, but we haven't had any in 8 months and going due to his work deployment and problems with a pregnancy. Then it just continued. I think I miss it more than he does. :(
But there's gotta be something else that worked? Or if one or the other worked for you, can you let me know?
I know the correct answer is 'nothing - cut and run'. But sometimes miracles happen. There's 1600+ members on this board. Certainly someone has a success story to share?
I managed to get my hubby into marital counseling, which is a huge step for him. But today we got kicked out (see my journal) cause he was not even seeing what the problem is. The thing is, the counselor was not even trying to make it clear to him. He relied on me explaining that abuse is unacceptable. But if my husband listened, we would not be in his office, right?
I don't think my husband is totally blind, just too proud to admit he's wrong, and too macho to admit there's something wrong with him, and to get treatment for his recurring depression (which is what I think made him abusive last year).
So... MEN: what could get you into treatment? What could get you to see a therapist? To change? What would get your macho(er) friends to change? WOMEN: What have you done that worked?
The only concrete advice I got was to withhold sex (from a male co-worker), and to lose weight (from my mom and a friend). I have a policy against withholding sex, no matter the reason, but we haven't had any in 8 months and going due to his work deployment and problems with a pregnancy. Then it just continued. I think I miss it more than he does. :(
But there's gotta be something else that worked? Or if one or the other worked for you, can you let me know?
May your situation work out in the best interest of everyone there.
forgiving YOU