Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

5,836 Members
27,933 Posts
0 Online
Personal Challenges
/ Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

What awful things has your abuser told you or said

NewStart4me
NewStart4me
Just wanting to see what awful things your abuser said to you or told you that made you think is he just joking or is he serious?
azkevin
azkevin
One of the most frustrating parts of abuse is not knowing whether something they said is a joke or a compliment or just mean. Names are obvious. But I have gotten what would normally be considered compliments, that are in fact mean when I consider the context or the source. My ex was great at this - "you are such a good looking guy, but you should dress nicer and sit up straighter."

The ones I have heard from my current GF -
- comments about noises I make when I eat.
- CONSTANT talk about my eyebrows. At first, I thought it was cute. But since there have been times when she has said mean things, I now consider any discussion of the way I look to be mean.
- One time she remarked how she was going to create a fake facebook profile for me (I hate facebook). I thought she was joking, so I joked back, and then she raged at me.
- one time she told me when she was in a good and playful mood: "One of these days I will give you MY herpes!" OMG, and she thought *that* was a joke?