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What about HER?

IleneW
IleneW
Pasted in from today's
Wolf's Daily Howl:


"He was a leader. Everyone on the team looked up to him. He was a vocal guy. He had the best talent on the team so everyone followed him."


Let's hope not.

He shot his girlfriend, the mother of a 3 month-old baby.

I'm not going to way much about him except that he's an NFL athlete.
All the news reports are printing lots of copy and talking and moaning
about his team and their loss and yadayadayada.

What about HER?
What about her BABY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

She was 22 years old with her life ahead of her and a newborn to care for.
Now the baby is an orphan and the young woman who was dating a pro athlete
is dead.

What about HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
layersuponlayers
layersuponlayers
I was thinking the same thing, "He was a great guy who shot the mother of his child 5 times and left her in the mud."
layersuponlayers
layersuponlayers
I was thinking the same thing, "He was a great guy who shot the mother of his child 5 times and left her in the mud."
deleted_user
deleted_user
I decided to look up some news articles about this and actually was surprised to find two that focused on her, the victim, and domestic violence. The articles are well written. one was in USA Today and the other was in NY daily News. After thinking it over, I have decided that rather than spend any time or energy complaining to the news sources that focused mostly on him and that gave him accolades and praise while basically ignoring her, that I would praise the news sources that I think wrote well written, un biased articles about this.
It is said that what we focus on enlarges. So maybe the better route would be to focus on those who chose to focus on her, the victim, as well as her now orphaned baby, since his father's suicide. and on bringing the focus back to domestic violence. in both of those articles, people were very surprised because one of her closest friends didn't know there was anything seriously wrong in their relationship, other than an arguement she was told had been resolved. So what that empahsizes to me is the importance of telling the full ugly truth to people you know that care about you and not sugar coating or minimizing their abuse when telling others, or even to yourself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's just awful. How and who is going to tell this poor baby when it gets older that "your dad killed your mom and then himself." Can't even imagine the pain this child will feel. I feel for her too....