Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My ex fianc and I had a shared email account for wedding prep. When I went to go delete it I saw the account history and in there I found the most disturbing things. There was MILF pornography, just a week after our engagement broke.
I was so clear in stating pornography was a deal breaker for me and he said "I don't. People who do that have a disease." And then after engagement he said "All guys do it. You are so crazy to ask me if I do it or not. You're so crazy. Well I guess I should he flattered since jealousy is a form of attachment so after marriage YOU will be my porn." And when I wouldn't speak sexually to him he'd say I'm mentally immature for marriage and he was jokingly saying he'd go to a strip club and call the women there my name.
I felt like throwing up but when I saw the account history all these feelings came back.
He wanted me to take the bones from his meal, to prepare his food, to sometimes feed him, to gain weight so I would be more "thick" and the fact that I saw MILF pornography means he perhaps has a mother fetish.
I'm so disturbed right now. How can I trust people? I was so clear in asking if he engaged in porn and he said no, and then I see this. How do I know the next guy won't turn around and do the same?
What is wrong with me to be engaged with such a loose man? Or are all men like this?
Am I that naive? :(
I was so clear in stating pornography was a deal breaker for me and he said "I don't. People who do that have a disease." And then after engagement he said "All guys do it. You are so crazy to ask me if I do it or not. You're so crazy. Well I guess I should he flattered since jealousy is a form of attachment so after marriage YOU will be my porn." And when I wouldn't speak sexually to him he'd say I'm mentally immature for marriage and he was jokingly saying he'd go to a strip club and call the women there my name.
I felt like throwing up but when I saw the account history all these feelings came back.
He wanted me to take the bones from his meal, to prepare his food, to sometimes feed him, to gain weight so I would be more "thick" and the fact that I saw MILF pornography means he perhaps has a mother fetish.
I'm so disturbed right now. How can I trust people? I was so clear in asking if he engaged in porn and he said no, and then I see this. How do I know the next guy won't turn around and do the same?
What is wrong with me to be engaged with such a loose man? Or are all men like this?
Am I that naive? :(
Geeze I hope you're not more upset. Sometimes my writing needs editing when I'm writing fast and upset. I am upset today thinking about this situation, and how is current girlfriend struggles to try to keep me at blame for him. My X: He's a coward. One of my male friends has volunteered to defend me should anyone really try to beat up a 48 year old, nice, healthy, spiritual woman like me. Here these aholes are meth users and do no good for anyone at all. They just flip out, threaten people, steal, beat up, even murder in the worse cases.
I am having a problem makign my writing clear as I'm upset while writing.
I'll correct this right this time: To Utterly Conflicred: For the mistake in the sentence "t'm saying yours is a pimp or lure.....:, what I meant t say is " I"m NOT saying yours (fiance or boyfriend, husband) is a pimp or lure, but mine may have been."
OMG God it was all backwards and sounded bad, then I tried to correct the first time, making no sense, so I hope this second correction clears up the confusion. God how embarressing.