Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Of all the things I texted to him when he stonewalled me last time and withdrew, and silent treatment after I told him the things I don't like that he did to me.
How he left me spent the holidays with his ex wife & kids.
Contacted after the holidays because he finds it impossible not to think about me.
How his avoidance hurt me and how he denies spending it with his ex when I saw pictures they were both there on FB.
How he has done that to me 6 out of 7 years to play family and ditch my son and I and it was very hurtful.
How he has left me (abaondoned me 100 times - not kidding it is probably more in reality). Think for 7 years he left me every two weeks for different legths of time. Now he saw a counselor once and thought he could keep doing it as long as he said time out. The first time I had to tell him he is supposed to say time out before he does the burny in his truck.
He doesn't take responsiblity for any of the abuse after he gets me back.
You are stonewalling me again.
YOu are withdrawing again.
After all that and no reply all day I told him I am done and for him to leave me alone.
then i said you really hurt me again and you only cause me pain.
You withheld which caused the breakdown in the first place.
and it took him more than a day to send a email that says only this:
"You asked me to leave you alone cause you cant be with me you've had it and you said to leave you alone for good."
Ok so I was like that is the only thing I said he paid attention to?
So I decided to write this one last thing just because I can:
"Out of all the things I tried to tell you that is the only one thing you accepted or do? Interesting response and it tells me a lot about how much you really pay attention to all I try to communicate to you. You react to my words of final frustration after nothing else I expressed worked." I might put this one in my book ( I told him I'm writing a book, lol) don't worry i will give you a ficticious name so nobody will find you out."
Oh man if i didn't have it in black and white I don't think I would even believe how shallow and narrow minded he is.
"God please give my ex everthing you feel he deserves" Mother Angelica said to pray this prayer for those who have hurt you, she meant so God can help them to follow Him better etc. But it sort of for when you are having a hard time praying for specific good things, I find it ironic in that it sort of is praying for him and it also sort of helps me feel a bit better. I'm not wishing harm just that God give him what God thinks he deserves (even what he needs) because too it would be nice if they could love more like God and be better to others. Not probable but with God all things are possible. Ok I just lauged a bit over the email he came up with. I just came home from a Church retreat and I saw it. Crazy but true. I read about the abuse and sometimes I really think they wrote much of the book after studying him. I am not angry today... that was a plus!
How he left me spent the holidays with his ex wife & kids.
Contacted after the holidays because he finds it impossible not to think about me.
How his avoidance hurt me and how he denies spending it with his ex when I saw pictures they were both there on FB.
How he has done that to me 6 out of 7 years to play family and ditch my son and I and it was very hurtful.
How he has left me (abaondoned me 100 times - not kidding it is probably more in reality). Think for 7 years he left me every two weeks for different legths of time. Now he saw a counselor once and thought he could keep doing it as long as he said time out. The first time I had to tell him he is supposed to say time out before he does the burny in his truck.
He doesn't take responsiblity for any of the abuse after he gets me back.
You are stonewalling me again.
YOu are withdrawing again.
After all that and no reply all day I told him I am done and for him to leave me alone.
then i said you really hurt me again and you only cause me pain.
You withheld which caused the breakdown in the first place.
and it took him more than a day to send a email that says only this:
"You asked me to leave you alone cause you cant be with me you've had it and you said to leave you alone for good."
Ok so I was like that is the only thing I said he paid attention to?
So I decided to write this one last thing just because I can:
"Out of all the things I tried to tell you that is the only one thing you accepted or do? Interesting response and it tells me a lot about how much you really pay attention to all I try to communicate to you. You react to my words of final frustration after nothing else I expressed worked." I might put this one in my book ( I told him I'm writing a book, lol) don't worry i will give you a ficticious name so nobody will find you out."
Oh man if i didn't have it in black and white I don't think I would even believe how shallow and narrow minded he is.
"God please give my ex everthing you feel he deserves" Mother Angelica said to pray this prayer for those who have hurt you, she meant so God can help them to follow Him better etc. But it sort of for when you are having a hard time praying for specific good things, I find it ironic in that it sort of is praying for him and it also sort of helps me feel a bit better. I'm not wishing harm just that God give him what God thinks he deserves (even what he needs) because too it would be nice if they could love more like God and be better to others. Not probable but with God all things are possible. Ok I just lauged a bit over the email he came up with. I just came home from a Church retreat and I saw it. Crazy but true. I read about the abuse and sometimes I really think they wrote much of the book after studying him. I am not angry today... that was a plus!
Seawee
key to healing:
Start believing
that abusive people
are toxic, and that
toxic people
are abusive.
If we have already
seen a pattern of
abusive behavior,
what would make
us think that
there will ever
be anything other
than more
abusive behavior?
LOVE YOUR
PRECIOUS LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have to believe I am powerless over all others. Abusive and toxic people also need to be left alone so I can heal.
I pray now with a Knowing heart that no barrier formed against God, Jesus Christ or the Holy Spirit be allowed to stand.
(You take 2 breaths then say)
Redemptive love.
The first part, when I pray it, it feels Strong and right. Redemptive love. Not for him. For me. This that I pray is redemptive love, the power of the Infinite frees me and all my circumstances from the horror show of circumstances he has created.
It has it good times, and then there are days when they are not so good. I have been calling those things he does out of him, and naming them to him, so he hears what he is doing to me.
It may not change him, or make him stop his abusive ways, but saying it out loud causes me to hear it, and confirm for myself what he is doing. I also come on here and type it. So that way it is down somewhere. I journal it.
Spring on the way..time to get out more heal more. I am glad that you have your faith to follow..after all you have been through, you could have become hardened but you didn't. You are kind and intelligent and insightful.