Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
silence as control I bumped up for you
I am sorry he treats you this way, he is wrong.
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No, you are not wrong at all - he is wrong. My husband did this too. Along with every other emotional abuser I have ever known, including my father.
They are trying to maintain control by not acknowledging your presence or attempts to talk to them.
My advice, when he is like that, is for you to not let his actions dictate yours. The first time he doesn't respond, leave it at that, and don't try to make him talk. Go off and do something you need to do, or something you enjoy instead. Focus on yourself. If he wants to have a silent strop over something that is not appropriate for getting angry about, let him!!
arbe's article that gem bumped for you is also really useful.
Sorry you are being treated this way. :( It is really, really, wrong. Take care xx
I would often scrabble around and try to do something compensatory - apologise - compromise - all sorts of things to gain a reaction - the silence was very difficult for me to cope with
now she has cut me off more by taking a job in Qatar, moving there with my younger boy - that part is very painful indeed
but - its so peaceful and quiet in my house now.. that at least is very calming...
seek some peace - looking for something to do that is distracting and active it will help channel your frustrations - not in compensation - but for you...
I can't believe the nerve of him.
You are NOT NOT a pig, deprogram that from your life and mind.
He is a jerk that says creul thing to his own wife!!!
AND he should be ashamed!!!!
Please Please consider the source.
Also it IS abuse to just be friggen quiet when your wife is trying
to be sweet and compassionate and understanding and engaging!!!