Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hey All,
This particular online support group has been great for me to help me get out of an abusive relationship a few years ago. I find myself back here and totally forgot how helpful this forum could be for me.
I found myself dating a man who became very needy. I broke up with him finally after much frustration and was stalked for a few months until I got a restraining order, and he's pretty much leaving me alone since. I have received therapy for PTSD since. I have also attended therapy and classes at a domestic violence agency which have been helpful.
I find I have withdrawn from a lot of our mutual friends. They just still are in touch with him. I met him through my 12 step program and changed my meetings. Anyway I am finding I am still affected by the affects of the stalking. A lot of the affects I deal with is people who sort of downplayed the harmfulness of the stalking are people I think have contributed to the injury of the situation. I am learnign a lot about abuse. I am also doing a workbook on Mending The Soul (a Christian book on healing from abuse). I realize how our loved ones respond to our being abused can cause injury when there is minimizing and excuse making.
Well I think this forum would be helpful for me. I have come a long way. I have been in abusive relationships of one kind or another for many years. I am currently single and not dating by choice so I can learn to choose healthier mates. I was quite scared off by the stalking.
Anyone relate? Thanks
This particular online support group has been great for me to help me get out of an abusive relationship a few years ago. I find myself back here and totally forgot how helpful this forum could be for me.
I found myself dating a man who became very needy. I broke up with him finally after much frustration and was stalked for a few months until I got a restraining order, and he's pretty much leaving me alone since. I have received therapy for PTSD since. I have also attended therapy and classes at a domestic violence agency which have been helpful.
I find I have withdrawn from a lot of our mutual friends. They just still are in touch with him. I met him through my 12 step program and changed my meetings. Anyway I am finding I am still affected by the affects of the stalking. A lot of the affects I deal with is people who sort of downplayed the harmfulness of the stalking are people I think have contributed to the injury of the situation. I am learnign a lot about abuse. I am also doing a workbook on Mending The Soul (a Christian book on healing from abuse). I realize how our loved ones respond to our being abused can cause injury when there is minimizing and excuse making.
Well I think this forum would be helpful for me. I have come a long way. I have been in abusive relationships of one kind or another for many years. I am currently single and not dating by choice so I can learn to choose healthier mates. I was quite scared off by the stalking.
Anyone relate? Thanks
I definitely agree that being invalidated or having what you went through minimised by others, particularly others that you feel you ought to be able to rely on for support (family, close friends, etc) can very much add to the pain and can sometimes be considered fresh abuse in and of itself - adding insult to injury.
I hope you are able to find the healing you seek.
Sorry for what you've gone through
and are going through.
Go on practicing self-care.
Sending hugs and healing prayers.
It is hard hearing excuses for abusive/stalking behaviour but you're the one that knows the reality. You know the truth and you're dealing with it the way you see fit. Unfortunately sometimes this means having to lose a few mutual friends, but better that than being constantly on edge and uncomfortable. Plus, you'll know who your true friends are.
Recently a friend and I had something similar happen with an abusive person (actually, he was pretty much stalking my friend and blaming me for her disinterest) People were saying things like "He's lost his job, living at home, in love with someone who doesn't love him. He's just in a tough spot." Well tough spot or not, he's better out of our lives, whatever their opinions.
Stay strong :-)