Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
To fill everyone in. I was with my abusive ex for nearly 4 years. Finally in March I made him move out of my house. I was weak and believed he loved me and continued seeing him up until three weeks ago. He hadn't changed at all despite his claims so I broke it off for good I thought. I have been trying to go no contact and am good for a few days but then I receive a text bout how much he cares and misses me and wants to be friends. I knew he was back on online dating almost immediately, but then he told me he deleted it cause he just wasn't ready. Turns out the truth is he ALREADY has someone he is seeing. I got very upset on Friday night and he ended up coming over and we spent the night together. He told me I have his heart and he loves me but again...this is all my fault and I threw away such a great thing...the whole guilt trip thing that he does. Then he tells me that he is going out with this girl saturday night and spending the night at her house.
I feel like a weak, weak fool. I know this is not my fault. I have a wonderful, wonderful family that saw right through him almost immediately. He blames them. He did nothing wrong in his eyes. His demand is basically that this is my last chance and I must set my family straight and choose him. I WILL NOT do that. But I keep letting him mess with me.
And I know I need to change my number but at least for the next 20 days because of some legal issues with property he has still to remove from my house I have to be available for him to make arrangements to pick it up. After that time frame it is considered abandoned and I am done with that.
You need support.
Therapy can help.
It's helped many
of us.
Would you consider
working for awhile
with a qualified therapist
to help move you to a
place where you begin
healing?
In regards to contact,
since you say you're
forced to maintain
communication for
a couple more weeks,
does it have to be by
phone? Could it be
limited to email or
texts? That way,
at least there's a
record, and also
less voice-to-voice
interaction.
Sending hugs
and wishes for
strength and
healing.
T
I also agree when it comes to limiting your contact to email and/or texts only.
Doing both will help you begin to heal. I applaud you for seeing thru his bullsh*t and putting you and your family first. If you haven't read it yet, please get Patricia Evans' book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship. It helped me realize I wasn't what I was made out to be. Also check out her website, www.youarenotcrazy.com.
And take good care of yourself!!
itsjustme is right, it will get better.
~healing hugs~