Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Please be patient with me. Many of you have read my brief story with the ex and have said he is definitely abusive. But I have spent some time reading others' stories on here. Mine simply doesn't compare to what others have endured. I was not called names, I was not sworn at, I was not belittled, and I was never touched cruelly in any manner. I almost wish I had been....it would be much easier to close the door on this sad chapter of my life.
Maybe my ex is just mean. Maybe he decided during that window when he changed that he didn't want me anymore and he decided rather then be direct, he would just drive me away with his behavior. After all, he does have an image to uphold...we we're running a business together. We live where we work and many of our customers are friends we see daily.
On the other hand, maybe he is very intelligent and careful...careful that his abuse is discreet.
Or maybe as one of our close, mutual farm friends says, "we are just not compatible and don't communicate well."
And then, as someone so correctly pointed out to me here last night...what does it matter...if it made me feel bad, then it was bad. I truly felt I was going mad when I finally moved out.
I need to stop questioning all of this...for my own well-being. I am exhausted from thinking, really exhausted. And I want to, I really want to move on with my life. I'm not a spring chicken and don't have time to waste...whether its just meanness, abusiveness or a lack of interest.
Sorry for the babbling....
Maybe my ex is just mean. Maybe he decided during that window when he changed that he didn't want me anymore and he decided rather then be direct, he would just drive me away with his behavior. After all, he does have an image to uphold...we we're running a business together. We live where we work and many of our customers are friends we see daily.
On the other hand, maybe he is very intelligent and careful...careful that his abuse is discreet.
Or maybe as one of our close, mutual farm friends says, "we are just not compatible and don't communicate well."
And then, as someone so correctly pointed out to me here last night...what does it matter...if it made me feel bad, then it was bad. I truly felt I was going mad when I finally moved out.
I need to stop questioning all of this...for my own well-being. I am exhausted from thinking, really exhausted. And I want to, I really want to move on with my life. I'm not a spring chicken and don't have time to waste...whether its just meanness, abusiveness or a lack of interest.
Sorry for the babbling....
Think about it. What could he do to you that would justify treating him like crap? You wouldn't. You just wouldn't treat him that way because it's not an appropriate way to treat someone.
And on top of that, how much of your depression was CAUSED by his treatment of you? By the fact that he dangled your dream in front of you, then took it for himself and left you to work 2 jobs to support his theft of your dream?
You never deserved to be treated badly, even if everything he said about you and his ex was true (which it no doubt was not).