Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Yesterday, a call to the cops to report an argument for some kids in the neighborhood who seem to be drug dealers, brought up a memory over 10 years old.
It was an extremely abusive relationship and without going into too many details, I did some things out of line, but I ended up with the underside of my arm scraped and bruised from top to bottom as the result of him rolling up his window on my arm, and me trying to pull it out. I also ended up with a tire track on my shoe that he ran over, which was not injured.
I called police after I got home after I'd stopped at work to get my check and tell some girls I worked with. It was a bar and not the healthiest environment.
Anyway the police looked at the injuries and I remember a cop telling me he didn't run over my foot, that it would be broken (he did!) They didn't make any report, I think they said if I'd called from the location they may have been able to do something.
Another incident years earlier with another bf, he spit in my face, I don't remember if he broke my windshield, (I don't think he did). I drove to police and they said him spitting on me was assault and if I'd called from the location where it happened, they could have done something.
I know these things are coming up now for me to deal with again, because at the time, I must admit I used marijuana and alcohol and other unhealthy practices to deal with life! (I've been clean and sober 4 years now in recovery).
I am amazed how stuff could be so old andstill not quite dealt with.
I wonder if anyone else had police discount their abuse, and how it affected them?
I wonder if they'd acted differently if it would have saved me anytime from staying in the cycle abuse, which I lived in for many years in various relationships. I don't blame them- I think people and institutions are imperfect and not always trustworthy. I just find it sad that so many women must cry out for help, and be rejected, basically
It was an extremely abusive relationship and without going into too many details, I did some things out of line, but I ended up with the underside of my arm scraped and bruised from top to bottom as the result of him rolling up his window on my arm, and me trying to pull it out. I also ended up with a tire track on my shoe that he ran over, which was not injured.
I called police after I got home after I'd stopped at work to get my check and tell some girls I worked with. It was a bar and not the healthiest environment.
Anyway the police looked at the injuries and I remember a cop telling me he didn't run over my foot, that it would be broken (he did!) They didn't make any report, I think they said if I'd called from the location they may have been able to do something.
Another incident years earlier with another bf, he spit in my face, I don't remember if he broke my windshield, (I don't think he did). I drove to police and they said him spitting on me was assault and if I'd called from the location where it happened, they could have done something.
I know these things are coming up now for me to deal with again, because at the time, I must admit I used marijuana and alcohol and other unhealthy practices to deal with life! (I've been clean and sober 4 years now in recovery).
I am amazed how stuff could be so old andstill not quite dealt with.
I wonder if anyone else had police discount their abuse, and how it affected them?
I wonder if they'd acted differently if it would have saved me anytime from staying in the cycle abuse, which I lived in for many years in various relationships. I don't blame them- I think people and institutions are imperfect and not always trustworthy. I just find it sad that so many women must cry out for help, and be rejected, basically
Sometimes when I'm frustrated, I often "connect" with my mom (she passed away) and tell her how sorry I am that no one helped her or believed her...
When I was using, a boyfriend of mine hit me on the head with a flashlight and pushed my out of his moving truck....I def think of that as a different lifetime because I was so f-en into my disease at that time...by the grace of God, in sobriety, I won't even KNOW a person like that, let alone be madly in love with him....
Rambling I know, but I understand completely how frustrating it can be not to be heard...I am in the process, as we speak, of trying to deal with a therapist who negated me the past 9 months re: my current situation...
Here's the bottom line...we don't have to f-en justify, explain, defend or explain...we know what we know, and our sisters here will validate if need be.
Obviously if the police had believed her as a child her life would have been much different.