Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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janine0901 01/04/2013

Things were going good for my disfucntional relationship . I have been with him for 20yrs this year and things are just out of control . He trys to control everything I do . I will be either trying to cook or just trying to do something with my kids and he will come in and try to take control of what was happening . I cant stand it . This morning I got dressed and put my make up on for work at 6: 00 am well he thought that I looked to nice and went straight to yelling at me calling me names and saying how I was going to be f***king somone today and how Im a sneak . Are you for real really your going to do this . I have enough going on my father is very ill and may pass soon and he is putting me thru this . His favorite word is Im not a mother . I just say what ever to that because I know Im a good mother and do my best for them Im not perfect but I do my best . Sorry ladies I just needed to vent Im so sick of living like this . I know I have to do something about it but its easier said then done . I hope that everyone has a good year and thank you for just being here so I can do this when Im ready to just go off the deep end it means more then you will ever know. love ya's

deleted_user 01/04/2013

((hugs))
I'm sorry you're living like this. It is hard to leave, but it feels soooooo good afterwards, like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Hope you feel better, and think of it this way lol, you know you must look damn good if he is trying to pull this shit.
I'm sure you're an excellent mother. For you to even say you;re not perfect and do your best shows how much love and care you have for your children.
I hope your day gets better hun :-)

radrm 01/04/2013

Hang in there and you can do something about it! You just have to make that decision and take action. There are womens help centers that can help you too. Hopefully Ilene comes on today she can give you the information! It is very unhealthy to live like this. You know that already now maybe you are ready to make a plan to change all that. Support and hugs! You deserve to be treated well and he is very emotionally abusive from what you say! You know your a good mother they really like to use put downs to make you feel low and unworthy as a person. Do not believe his lies!! Take care and Im sorry about your father I hope things get better. My sons father was terrible to me when I was taking care of my dying father and he would say "You should be taking care of our son" and at the same time he would say I shouldn't have my son around my dying father. So I couldn't win either way and i feel you cant either. Good luck, hugs and support to you!!

janine0901 01/04/2013

Thank you very much ladies for your support . It helps more then you know . I will never again belive his words and will look towards better days. You guys are the best . Much lov

gem111 01/04/2013

I don't know how long he has been treating you like this, but it sounds like he is a real control freak. He also sounds like an abuser who loves to blame everything that goes wrong on his victim (you).
I know it;s hard to think about what you need to do to become happy and peaceful again, but it sounds like you are getting there.
Good luck.
Sending tons of support and hugs

Livndadrem 01/05/2013

Have you had any kind of counselling? Would you consider it? That kind of control and emotional abuse really messes with our self-esteem (believe me, I know). And we start to feel like we can't make it on our own, we can't do anything, we are better off just staying put. But it's lies they feed us.

You don't have to live like that. You can show your kids a much better life. It's not easy, but it can be done. Keep posting, keep thinking, make plans and think thoughts that he has no idea about. And meanwhile, keep venting whenever you need.

IleneW 01/05/2013

I have to tell you that
from the little you've
described, he sounds
potentially DANGEROUS.

Please call:

(800) 932-4632

It's your state's women's resources.

They can help with counseling
and other kinds of support.

Please BE CAREFUL.

Hugs and prayers for
all good things.

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