Henry....Maybe you want to send them a PM or hug, apologizing....clearing the air. Journals are private, unlike posts, and people can choose who they want to be there....No unwritten rules except, be kind.... I think Kitty with the Four Agreements is a good start....

But if you meant no harm, just let the person know....

Ditto what Kitty and HockeyMom said.

Thanks Kitty ----

I love the Four Agreements.

So simple. So profound.

The four points would make good guidelines all over this forum not just in the Journals.

i knoe this might not be right but i am just being honest some women who first come here find it hard or dont fell safe talking w men w pic i hit ignore button for several months didnt want them trying to pick me up of flirt i assumed this because i was untrusting of all men for awhile i felt safer talking w women or people w out pic i didnt know were male or female.never was it meant to be personal just a choice i made really w out even thinking about it.

when i first started posting on another group, i had my picture as an avi, and told my story. i got a message from someone telling me that I was attractive so be careful with posting my picture and to be careful what i said because my husband could be also on the site...and that i should post better in my journal Now, i inmediately unfriended him because i did not need anyone telling me about my physical appearance (felt like a come-on). I had not said anything I did not want to say on the post, and it was not offensive to anyone (I am 54 and can make decisions about what I want to say about my life and not),so felt that this person was undermining my maturity. i changed my avi as a result. i continue to post as always and no one else has said anything negative about my postings.

the person sent me a message not understanding why he had been unfriended...i did not bother to respond. i have enough drama in my personal life.

just thoughts

I also would be careful of how you interact with an abuse survivor - it is a touchy subject, and for many the wounds are still quite raw. Ask yourself if anything could be interpreted as an attack, and reword it if necessary. Often advice is not wanted so much as an ear to listen.