Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
It's been a year since I told her she had to get out. There's been almost no contact but I do know that she married her next victim.
It sort of bothers me that from time to time I think of her and still have very strong feelings, sometimes still blaming myself and other times wishing I could take retribution for what she did to me.
A big thank you to everyone here for all the support. I still get DS email notifications and occasionally respond to other people's posts or journals.
It sort of bothers me that from time to time I think of her and still have very strong feelings, sometimes still blaming myself and other times wishing I could take retribution for what she did to me.
A big thank you to everyone here for all the support. I still get DS email notifications and occasionally respond to other people's posts or journals.
I think it takes a long time to get over abuse, I am also a little over a year out and have the same feelings from time to time. But not as often as I used to, so that's progress, right?
Just keep moving forward ... it's all we can do.
I think it does stay with us, the hurt, disappointment, not to mention how disillusional to discover so much about our ex's...who they really are underneath.
The retribution is that she will always be an empty soul, incapable true happiness or love...
You were able to take a stand, break free, and keep away, that's a big deal.
It's so worth the feeling of not having that constant worry and panic all the time, that terrible feeling of being under the 'control' of abuse.
Ok, this is freaky, I joined the boards a year ago today, a few weeks after my ex decided to fly the coop. Wow! Time has really flown....and I'm so much better off emotionally & mentally than I was this time last year :)
(didn't mean to hijack, henry!)