Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Pasted in from today's Wolf's Daily Howl:
I've been doing this long enough to be hard to shake up.
But a local news network aired a story last night that
totally sickened me. I'm pasting it in below, at the
bottom of which, is a link to a web-page that shows
the image of this piece-of-crud predator. Can you
spell: a*r*r*o*g*a*n*c*e?
Seattle man claims he has 'contract' allowing him to abuse pregnant girlfriend
SEATTLE - King County, Wash. prosecutors are accusing a man with having so much power over his teenage girlfriend, that he actually got her to sign a contract giving him permission to beat her up.
Graydon Smith was convicted of domestic violence in 2003 and now he's back in jail facing five more counts of domestic violence and assault.
Repeated abuse, counselors say they see far too often.
Barbara Langdon is Executive Director of the Eastside Domestic Violence Program. She says, "They'll offend and the person will get out and repeat again with another partner, another spouse and it keeps going on and on and on."
According to court documents Smith, not only abused his pregnant 19-year-old girlfriend physically and emotionally, he put it in writing, forcing her to sign a contract allowing him to "physically assault her on any part of her body except for her pregnant belly."
Smith apparently thought the contract was enough to protect him. In fact when he was arrested police say they found his girlfriend with a swollen bloody lip, a cut on her chin, red marks on both sides of her neck and a lump on the back of her head.
Langdon says, "Somehow if I put it on paper it's OK? There are two scary parts of that. Number one the law is the law and you can't batter somebody."
What's worse, prosecutors say this has been going on for a long time.
They say there was evidence of, "psychological, physical and sexual abuse caused by multiple incidents over a long period of time." They also say he threatened to kill her.
Domestic violence counselors say women simply have to free themselves of abusive boyfriends or spouses before bad turns into something much worse.
Langdon says, "So many victims get stuck and they think there is no hope but for every case like this there are hundreds of stories of women calling for help and getting out of abusive relationships and they go on to live happy and healthy lives."
Smith was being held in the King County jail on $145,000 bail.
http://www.kdvr.com/news/kdvr-contract- ... 2746.story
I've been doing this long enough to be hard to shake up.
But a local news network aired a story last night that
totally sickened me. I'm pasting it in below, at the
bottom of which, is a link to a web-page that shows
the image of this piece-of-crud predator. Can you
spell: a*r*r*o*g*a*n*c*e?
Seattle man claims he has 'contract' allowing him to abuse pregnant girlfriend
SEATTLE - King County, Wash. prosecutors are accusing a man with having so much power over his teenage girlfriend, that he actually got her to sign a contract giving him permission to beat her up.
Graydon Smith was convicted of domestic violence in 2003 and now he's back in jail facing five more counts of domestic violence and assault.
Repeated abuse, counselors say they see far too often.
Barbara Langdon is Executive Director of the Eastside Domestic Violence Program. She says, "They'll offend and the person will get out and repeat again with another partner, another spouse and it keeps going on and on and on."
According to court documents Smith, not only abused his pregnant 19-year-old girlfriend physically and emotionally, he put it in writing, forcing her to sign a contract allowing him to "physically assault her on any part of her body except for her pregnant belly."
Smith apparently thought the contract was enough to protect him. In fact when he was arrested police say they found his girlfriend with a swollen bloody lip, a cut on her chin, red marks on both sides of her neck and a lump on the back of her head.
Langdon says, "Somehow if I put it on paper it's OK? There are two scary parts of that. Number one the law is the law and you can't batter somebody."
What's worse, prosecutors say this has been going on for a long time.
They say there was evidence of, "psychological, physical and sexual abuse caused by multiple incidents over a long period of time." They also say he threatened to kill her.
Domestic violence counselors say women simply have to free themselves of abusive boyfriends or spouses before bad turns into something much worse.
Langdon says, "So many victims get stuck and they think there is no hope but for every case like this there are hundreds of stories of women calling for help and getting out of abusive relationships and they go on to live happy and healthy lives."
Smith was being held in the King County jail on $145,000 bail.
http://www.kdvr.com/news/kdvr-contract- ... 2746.story
I have led a pretty hard life and seen things that to most people are like a bad after school special. I dont sicken easily either. But DAMN.
Were the hell were this girls parents? her friends? relatives? teachers, anyone? If this has been going on along time she was involved with this guy young.
This is what happens when people "dont wanna get involved"
Damnnit, now im pissed off ... shud put his ass down like they do a rabid dog
As Lady says, this is what happens when people don't want to get involved.
This poor girl will be so messed up for so many years to come...and now she is bringing a baby into the world to perpetuate the cycle.
My heart breaks for this young woman and that baby.
Yeah, put him down like a rabid dog is a good idea.
http://www.kdvr.com/news/kdvr-contract-abuse-text,0,3482746.story
As for where her parents were ... well, as we all know, most people in abusive relationships came from very dysfunctional families, so I guess we can't be too surprised her parents didn't step in to protect her. We also know she was probably not allowed to have close friends or other support networks.
What I also found interesting were some of the comments on the article. All about perpetuating violence. How he should be beaten up, how they hope he's abused in prison, kill him, etc etc. Now, I'm pretty angry too, that something so horrible could happen - but if violence just begets violence, if violence is ever the "answer" to anything (other than genuine self-defence) then there will always be someone who thinks violence is the answer to their little problem too - which might be their partner talking back or not looking pretty enough or just being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
I really hope that girl also gets some help and support to deal, not only with what he has done to her, but also with the reasons she was in that position to start with.
Fortunately, in this case, for whatever reason and however it happened, someone DID finally get involved and now he is going to have to pay some kind of price for what he has done. Whether we can say it's a high enough price (I'm not sure there IS a high enough price for something so horrendous) is a different question of course.
So no, I wasn't accusing you of perpetuating or encouraging violence as a solution to problems.
i sure hope this girl can now be surrounded by a strong support system to help her to heal.
Me too.
Interestingly, I've found there are a variety of scenarios
from which something like this can spring:
One -- (the predominant but not the only one) --- is
dysfunction transmitted through behavior, from one
generation to the next to the one after that.
Another is less linked, generationally, but
more dependent on less obvious factors.
A third has to do with physiological genetics.
A fourth is a combination of one or more of the above.
I hope the young woman in the story has already been
connected with the support that will provide her the
tools and healing to repair what's been wrong, and
help her and her baby find new ways to live going forward.
I'm a tad embarrassed
to confess but that DID
make me laugh out loud.