Sweetie -----

The only power your
parents have over you, (now
that you are an adult. . . . . . )

is the power you
allow them.


Get a job that
enables you to
live somewhere
else ---- and there
is nothing they
can say or do
about your choices.

I can't do anything about this. They're my parents and I have to do what they say.

OK

Isn't it wrong to go against what parents say?

Facebook is not a great place; there are a lot of liars and haters there. I was there for a little while and left of my own accord. I am older than you. I have no mother. Never had a father, except the sexual abuster who, thank goodness she left? Why do your parents want to keep you from Facebook? If you somehow think it is good for you, yes, you can always go against your parents. Hide your tracks. What is good about Facebook for you? What is safe?

How am I supposed to cover my tracks up? I am afraid to do anything that will set parents off or make things worse with family. And all my parents said was I'm not grounded from Facebook I'm just not allowed on it because I can't handle it. It's too much for me apparently. So I feel I won't be able to get back on it for a long time.

If you need to cover your tracks with regards to FB you could try using Google Chrome's incognito mode.

That aside though, from everything I've read in your posts it definitely sounds like your parents are abusive and creating an unhealthy, toxic home environment for you. Have you considered contacting social services to have them step in and help straiten things out (or at least help you to get out of your situation)?

I realize that there would be the fear of how your parents would react, but it is possible to use that to your advantage. Just get yourself (or get your boyfriend to purchase it and give it to you discreetly if need be) a small/discreet audio recording device that you can hide on yourself and secretly start recording with as needed. Keep it with you and use it to document any instances where your parents are abusive in any way, and save these recordings. After you have documented several instances of their abusive behavior you should have evidence to back up your story when you contact social services. Then just continue documenting evidence to turn over to social services if your parents continue being abusive (and especially if they start becoming more abusive).

what happens when social services comes in and tears my family apart? If social services gets involved it'll tear my family apart. My family will hate me and reject me.

Not to sound insensitive, but how would that be all that different from how things currently are?

My mom would be in jail and is be in foster care and my siblings would be at home with my dad where he'd have to quit his job. (My dad's words. Not mine)

From what we can tell,
your father doesn't
seem to always
tell the truth.

You introduced yourself here
with images of your home life
being a place where your
baby sister was being
fed alcohol and the
children were riding
in a car driven by
a woman under
the influence
(your mother,
right?).

Would foster care
be worse than that?

Not to mention, why would you (the adult) be in foster care, while your younger siblings stay with your father?

My mom doesn't DUI. My dad is the distracted driver. Idk why I'd be in foster care. That's what confused me the most when my dad said that. I thought to myself when he said that That I'm 18. Why would they put me in foster care?

Sweetheart, why would your father ever say that someone would put you in foster care?? Why would they say you can't handle Facebook? Are you depressed?
I'm unclear, sorry.

Idk why. And idk if I'm depressed. I'm not even sure I'm abused. My dad told me several times when he sat me down and talked to me that I was fishing for attention. I'm not abused. I'm just fishing for attention. I don't trust my judgements anymore.