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sistermarie
sistermarie
I meet a new guy. My ex has been gone about 3 months. any way this guy is fun to talk to and makes me laugh. Today we were talking about why my ex left. I told him for touching the 18 year old I took in a year ago. She calles me mom and I count her as mine. So it was like touching his step dtr. So the new guy comes back with "werent you putting out'. I told him that wasn't important touching my dtr was wrong. He told me he was sorry and it was only a joke. He told me a few times. What do you think of this
happiness09
happiness09
I wouldn't like it at all. Not excusing him but some men in my opinion have dirty minds many are subtle enough to keep that type of talk only to other men.

It was a definate slur on you and at same time excusing the real perpetrator hence the other male, all men stick up for each other.
FarAndAway
FarAndAway
Major red flag.
deleted_user
deleted_user
get rid of him! he's no good! My ex use to say stuff like that when we were first dating. they start off as innocent jokes but next thing you know hes emotionaly abusive and controling. that joke may be a sign that he is only looking for sex and not a relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
What does you gut tell you? Many times we do not listen to our intuition and we get into trouble.
This guy is a Major Red Flag- Please dump him for your and your daughter's sake. I would also re-think in dating at least for a while and Reflect in the type of person you really want in your life. Take your time and have fun meeting people.
Just cause you meet a person it does not mean they are for you.
There is plenty of fish out there. But be careful of the Sharks..
Cindy52
IleneW
IleneW
The question is offensive.

The insinuation/subtext nauseating.

And justifying it as "a joke" is classic abuser code for:

If you protest my abuses I'll shrug them off as they're having been meant as something funny.

He's a loser. LOSE HIM.
Tamehau
Tamehau
Dump him. You were on point and he was way off base! MAJOR FLAG! Anyway new guy should never ask you a question like that! I would have walked off and told him to grow up.
sistermarie
sistermarie
thank your your input. I have not responded to his e mails or phone calls. I was already thinking it was a red flag but wanted some back up. Again thanks
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ditto RED FLAG, RUN...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't believe there is anything jocular about molestation.

This "joke" thing is another game that abusers play.

Billi
calmzone
calmzone
Bad news! Cut your losses now and chalk it up to good practice for your radar.
deleted_user
deleted_user
dont let the door hit him in the ass on his way out, way way out. that is a giant red flag, stay away.
sistermarie
sistermarie
I havent spoke to him. So he deleted all computer ways to contact him. I was wanting to any way. I kept getting that feeling that something wasn't right with him. We need to follow those feelings
IleneW
IleneW
Bingo.
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