She wants to get rid of him, but she is afraid. This man is dangerous. He went to prison for killing his own brother. I want to step in and do something, but I am smart enough to know that if she fails in her fortitude that I could become the "bad guy" and leave myself in danger. I am smart enough to know that I can't be a "rescuer" and save her. I know that if she goes through with the restraining order, I will do what I can to back her up. But even that could place me in danger. That would not stop me; I just don't want to get in a situation where I am endangered or harmed for no good reason. And all the bruises, bashed lips, black eyes that she always has excuses for -- then recants 2 or 3 weeks later -- it just makes me so mad. She seems like a nice lady, and I know how this guy pours honey in someone's ears then when he's got someone where he thinks he wants them ... game over. I want to help. I am not stopped from right decisions by fear. I have experienced too much of that in my life to let it cripple me. She implies that she wants help. The choices abusers and victims make in these situations are often fickle and unpredictable. Fear and powerlessness are such debilitating emotions -- I know. I don't know what to do.
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