Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
During my lifetime, friends have stayed or gone.
Each friend left footprints in my heart.
The thing is, even if a friend left me for a lifetime,
I still felt like I could bounce back and be strong.
Loved and lost.
However, with my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend,
whom I broke up with October of 2009, I still
feel like I have post-traumatic stress syndrome.
Constantly, things remind me of him, and
I hurt............
SO, I have narrowed it down to three main
reasons why the ending of his relationship
is so painful.
1.) very vulnerable. my grandmother who was my best friend
and raised me, died a few months before I started the
relationship with my ex.
2.) manipulative. my exboyfriend was the most manipulative
person I have ever met.
3.) charming. my exboyfriend was the most charming
person I have ever met.
I think the more charming a
person is, the more you let your guard down, and give
them more territory in your heart.
I think that these three factors are VERY important in whether
it is going to take a long time to recover from a breakup in the
relationship. If you are vulnerable and how vulnerable, and just
how manipulative and charming your ex was. Some
thoughts about managing pain. Thanks.
Each friend left footprints in my heart.
The thing is, even if a friend left me for a lifetime,
I still felt like I could bounce back and be strong.
Loved and lost.
However, with my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend,
whom I broke up with October of 2009, I still
feel like I have post-traumatic stress syndrome.
Constantly, things remind me of him, and
I hurt............
SO, I have narrowed it down to three main
reasons why the ending of his relationship
is so painful.
1.) very vulnerable. my grandmother who was my best friend
and raised me, died a few months before I started the
relationship with my ex.
2.) manipulative. my exboyfriend was the most manipulative
person I have ever met.
3.) charming. my exboyfriend was the most charming
person I have ever met.
I think the more charming a
person is, the more you let your guard down, and give
them more territory in your heart.
I think that these three factors are VERY important in whether
it is going to take a long time to recover from a breakup in the
relationship. If you are vulnerable and how vulnerable, and just
how manipulative and charming your ex was. Some
thoughts about managing pain. Thanks.
Things to keep in mind:
You are not to blame, or are at fault.
Anyone can be duped by an abuser. They are very very good at deception.
And the most important things to remember are
They are not typical or the norm.
They are the exception.
Not all people will take advantage of someone who is vulnerable. Not all people need or desire controlling others. Not all people feel the need to criticize, insult and berate, just in order to feel one up or better about themselves.
And
You are good enough and
worthy of love and respect.