I am so sorry, need. I hope you feel better soon.
I have heard many people say stress can kill you and from my personal experience, I totally believe it.
I know this is a horrible time for you, but please try and avoid any more stress.
I wish you the best!!!

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Stress is definitely capable of doing that! The stress will eventually go away, and I do hope the problems go with it.

Awww I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

And yes, stress can bring on all sorts of physical aches and pains. I lost almost 20 pounds during the ordeal with the ex, I was constantly tense so I was pretty sore as well. My "monthly" wasn't regular either.

Key is self-care. Do something to help you relax each day. I found baths with some scented salts helped. It gets easier, i promise!

Hugs

I carried the stress in my shoulders, still do. If you can manage it, try to find a good massage therapist who can work out the tension for you. Yes, you can become ill from it. Try to take good care of yourself in as many ways as you can manage!

Yes, stress can and does make us ill. I believe in the mind body spirit connection. You might consider reading Louise Hay's You Can Heal Yourself.

Meditation is very helpful in combating stress.

There are many different guided imagery cd's available that focus on stress reduction. You can go to youtube to listen to some for free until you decide if it's helpful for you. I highly recommend www.healthjourneys.com for some wonderful guided imagery cd's. She has a free download which is where I started. All you have to do is sign up for the email newsletter that comes about once a week at most. You can unsubscribe at any time. (BTW, I'm not affiliated w/her in any way, I'm just a happy customer. :-)

Do try walking or stretching Pilates, etc... I t helps... doesn't make it go away but it helps... stress is so hard to live with and deal with and diminish... but if you try a little to get rid of it or the affects there generally is some pay off (for me at least).

Another good thing to do when you are aware that you are stressed is to B-R-E-A-T-H-E.

Breathe in slowly thru the nose to a count of four.
Breathe out slowly thru the mouth to a count of four.

As you practice this, extend the count of the out breath up to a count of eight.

Taking as few as four deep slow breaths can actually change your mood and relax your body.

I thank you all. I will try all the thing you suggest. I am in so much pain

So sorry to hear you are not well :(

Yes, stress can be a killer. I only had depression, but know that all sorts of mental and physical illness starts as stress.

Hugs and hope you find time to relax soon... xx

Definitely. For the first time in my life, I have headaches that aren't related to another illness or dehydration. And my digestive system is all out of whack. And in the past, stress has caused the skin on the backs of my hands to peel and redden.

All I can suggest is to find something relaxing to do for yourself- take a walk, bike ride, read. And drink plenty of water, and do your best to eat well.

Can stress make you ill? Absa-freakin-loutely!!

There is a powerful connection between the mind and the body. That's why it is so critically important for you to take good care of yourself right now. Because you are under so much stress from the breakup, your body is much more vulnerable to all kinds of bad things.

That's why it's more important than ever for you to eat nutritious food, even if you don't feel hungry, and try to get enough sleep. Take good care of your body and as your heart begins to heal, your body will heal, too.

My other suggestion would be, try to find SOMETHING good about your current situation, anything at all, and try to focus on that. If there is anything that you enjoy doing right now, maybe try doing that. Just hang on and take care of yourself. I hope you feel better, soon.

My stress made me start losing my hair. Then I noticed I have some bald spots now... it is really embarrassing! But I started taking vitamins more regularly, and biotin, and I've noticed that little hairs are starting to grow back.

Definitely. I lost 14lbs over the course of the last few months. You have to try and look after yourself and once you start focusing on yourself it will get easier, I promise. There are still days when things are bad but things do get better, you've just got to keep yourself busy and do little by little. Taking everyday as it comes. Look after yourself.

Vey much so yes. My experience was very bad regarding the effect on my body as well as my mind.

My body:

I began loosing my hair, I've only just stopped loosing it but as a result my hair is extremely thin at the back on top and bald. (It's called alopecia and can be brought on by stress) as well as that I also developed Psoriasis on my scalp and have only just been able to stop using medicated shampoo for it (which did clear it up but if I stopped and used normal shampoo it would come back)

I've also had terrible back problems for years. Recently I've noticed that I've naturally started holding myself up with confidence (subconsciously) and my back problems (at the top of my back) have gone, literally my posture was the cause and my posture was bad because of the way I held myself due to lack of confidence from the abuse!

I also remember once going through this strange swelling around my eyes. It happened a few times when I was stressed.

My mind:

I had terrible PTSD and felt very down because of this.

Also lost a lot of sleep over the years

My mind and body have both now stablized and it's because I am away from the abuse!

I had major hair loss, too! After a particularly grueling divorce hearing, my hair started falling out in chunks. It did grow back. It happed again after another stressful event, but not so badly. I have also recently been told that I have heart damage from the stress. I have no risk factors for heart disease, but there is something called stress cardiomyopathy that has nothing to do with overweight or cholesterol levels. It can result in a cardiac even that looks like a heart attack at first. The difference is that you can really fully recover from it. But when I have any bad encounter with exH, my heart goes wild and my blood pressure shoots up. It's just so hard to take really good care of yourself and get proper rest when you're in the pressure cooker!