Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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racerangel8781 09/05/2012

I know i need to leave him and im driving myself crazy, slowly dying inside every day i continue to stay with him. I know i shouldn't feel guilt for wanting to leave but i do, i don't know how to get past it, i'm obsessed with the thought of leaving, why can't i make myself just do it for my sanity to save my life and to make a better life for my son. I'm losing my mind...

beansprout 09/05/2012

You have to be kinder to yourself. Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly difficult and it takes a lot of strength to do it. I understand your guilt, you worry about how he will cope without you, you worry about breaking up the family, you worry if you are giving up on the relationship and feel guilty for all that and more. The truth is though, you owe no one anything except yourself and your son. Please, if you havent already, contact the local DV or Women's Centre. See what supports they have to offer you. Also, read about abusive relationships, codependence too. Post and journal on DS. There are some wonderfully wise women on here who have gone through it all and came out, successfully at the end. There are women at all stages of leaving. Please, take excellent care of yourself

deleted_user 09/05/2012

I hear you. I was ready to leave in '06 but stayed after being begged, only to get more brainwashing and I really had no strength to leave even though I wanted to. I prayed hard about it, then in '10 it happened. I think God saved me. I know he did. Ask for His help. He sent an Angel or two that helped me.
I've never been happier on my own. Hardest thing to do, scariest, you think you're going to die, even w/ my angels etc....but you will be okay. I still have hard days 2 yrs later but it's better than being in that deep dark hole of despair and hopelessness in an empty abusive marriage. Be careful, make a plan, ask for help from above and people around you. God bless you!

kazb25 09/05/2012

your obsessing about leaving because your gut is speaking to u and u aint listening to it properly. Follow your gut. Do it in safety. Obtain help from your local women shelter. Its simply one phone call to them and making an appointment that will get the ball rolling. Just one step at a time. First ging to do is to start that ball rolling. And at your own pace the rest will follow

Livndadrem 09/05/2012

We've all been there. Try going a little easy on yourself. This feels hard because it is. It feels like it should be the easiest thing in the world, to just walk away from abuse, but it's not. You are not a failure or weak for finding it hard.

As others said, gather whatever resources and support you can, and then just one step at a time.

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