I am so sorry to hear that. :( Just remember he may treat her fine in the beginning but he certaintly doesn't love her and she will end up right where you are one day. Sad to say....

I really wush I could have taken a picture but I was so mad. Picture big black guy laying flat on his back like he was thinking about making a snow angel in the grass.

Glad I helped find your humor. I hope Need gets a good laugh.

I can totally relate to how you're feeling! I'm sorry you have to keep going thru so much hurt! I am not sure how much you trust his son either, but that maybe a lie also and just another trick to make you come back. I loved how everything was broken down, I believe by livin, but that was well said. I too do not want my ex to be with someone else, it hurts badly at times, but he is and I've had to come to terms with it. With that being said, I've also realized he's not my problem anymore, he's hers, and I shouldn't concern myself with what he's doing or who he's with because I don't want him ever again anyway. She can have the abuse! I believe it's easier to find a new one than it is to change and work on a relationship they have so badly damaged, that's why they move on so quick. They have to have someone, and if you're cutting off his source, he will seek another to feed from. I hope you can start to heal and he will leave you alone, stay strong, and try to do something for you! Big hugs

Need- I'm late on this issue and have little to say because I don't have an experience like yours.... but I do want to send support .....
You will get there.
Our experiences are different, but yet the people hurting us are somehow expertly the same!
I was told it would be good to cry... maybe we can exchange emotions for a day! I am glad you cry, but then after awhile take a large drink of water, go for a walk and smell the fresh air..... take a few breaths and start to feel some of the good---- it is out there, we just have to find it.....
Sending hugs and strength to you!

I lost count at how many times my ex faked illnesses.

He had
Something wrong with his head and constantly got headache
A fake stroke
A fake heart attack
A fake suspected cancer
Fake diabetic
Some odd fake damage to his lymph nodes that he claimed was causing his anger problems
He always implied he thought he had a brain tumour

Attention seeking!!!
And my ex was with someone else also!

Not much more to add. Everyone has said it.

Just want to add some support and the awareness that I too at one point was totally crushed and then I rebuilt. Let yourself be human and feel it all. It will process itself out. You are doing all the right things.

Mine faked colon cancer and told his new wife as an excuse not to contact her while he was home with me. I was his legal wife. Set up a dummy email in our daughters name to write his new hunny and tell her he was in Geneva Switzerland for treatment. We happened to be in London for three days

I've kept up with what you've written and you've been given some great advice. This man has lost control and is desperate to get you back under his control. He will try this over and over because its worked for him before. Continue to report him when he stalks you

While this hurts horribly you know that you are doing what you must for yourself. Cry when you need to and one day you will hear yourself laugh at his stupid actions and will know that you are healing from this.

As I suspected when you
first posted about this, I
had a very strong hunch
that it was a lie.

Faking an illness is
STANDARD STUFF
for abusers.

His sister lied for him
because she is from
the same dysfunctional
family system from
which HE is from.

Sending you hugs
and healing prayers.

Sending you strength and hugs. The responses here are very inspiring and helpful. Im so sorry he lied about something so serious.

keep up your strength, need. you are getting away and he is desperate. take care of you
(((((hugs)))))))

Thankyou to you all. I haven't felt to good today. but I have so much support in all of you that keeps me strong. He is texting off. different numbers today. Trying to catch me out. I am blocking everyone of them and I won't be answering my phone to any numbers I don't recognise..

Document and report each and every one of the texts. He's been charged with harassment and continues to harass you. Are those really the actions of someone who is "happy with someone else"?

very true what you say. He was looking through my letterbox earlier, wanted to squirt him with something. This man is not normal.

No, he is not - in fact, this is about as abnormal as it gets. This is outright stalking, and I hope you're taking appropriate steps to protect yourself physically from him, as well as emotionally.

Did you report him for looking through your letterbox ? Wow, he's a strange one ! Protect yourself, in every way possible.