If you're asking, is it
possible to spend
too much time reaching
out on a forum like this
one, my opinion is that
if you feel the need to
reach out, then that's
the support that you're
needing and are entitled
to.

If you're asking if it's
possible to lean too
heavily on the people
around you in real life,
both the ones who don't
seem to understand and
the ones who do, then in
my opinion, the answer
is that it's possible for
people in real life, even
the ones who love you
the most and even the
ones who truly understand,
to burn out on your situation.
That's where a qualified therapist
comes in as a valuable component
in any support system.

But posting too much?

I don't think so.
Some people may
choose to not respond
but generally there'll be
someone available to
post a supportive reply.

This website is et up so that everyone can post as much as they feel they need to; they don't impose limits like only once an hour or day. A few years back, this website helped get me through an extremely difficult episode of depression, despair and fear. If people got tired of hearing from me, they were free to ignore my messages. Post all you want, and I hope you feel better today than yesterday. I'll pray for you.

I don't think it's possible to post too much, and I think everyone on here probably understands that need to get it out. I feel the same way you do...as if I am starting to annoy some of the people in my life that don't understand exactly what a relationship like this does to you. I've had breakups before and NONE where ever like this. Even when I divorced my husband who I have two (now grown) children with. That's because that was not an abusive relationship, that was not a relationship where I was manipulated and brainwashed for years. It is different. I know your need for support. Some days I feel like an addict and I want to go to him just to get some relief...be it temporary. I reach out to people whether on here...or to a few of the people in my life that know what this is like. I have also started a journal...I have found that with that I can sometimes talk myself down. Stay strong....you have many supporters here who know EXACTLY what it feels like.

We tend to burden our supporters after awhile,
I know i did and i have to accept that and keep
Reaching out to my live support groups and
Online ones plus my therapist. I still struggle
And i know my people just want to see me be
happyAnd moving forward. Sometimes i feel
stuck In my recovery and get mad at myself
for still Being depressed and grieving and not
Really letting Go. HUGS

Post as much as you want and need! We are focused on these topics, while people in our lives are not necessarily. And yes, they burn out when they push too hard for your instant happiness.

Jstanicegirl That's exactly how I feel like an addict. Yesterday was a completely relaxing day with no expectations and I couldn't even enjoy it because it felt wrong. Today I just want to go back to him. But I'm holding out just terrified I'm going to give in

I tossed and turned for 4 months after the divorce,
Moving and went no contact. My detaching could
Not begin until no contact and i still have not seen
Him in 14 months. I struggle daily, i do not want Any
contact that would be too painful and set me back.

He had a GF And has moved on, me i feel stuck. Mad,
Hurt and betrayed. I know God wants a better life for
Me. I need to work harder toward that same goal for
myself. HUGS

I think it's the hardest thing I've ever done and I alternate between being so angry, feeling blunted, then feelings of despair and hurt come and I can only see my therapist once a week LOL I think it'd be helpful if she'd just follow me around and spend the day with me (kidding) but really... I'm just so determined not to go back but a large part of me is terrified I will regret it later.