Narcissistic Lovers, by Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble, is really good.

Hope you feel better soon! xxx

Thank you Rocking. I shall have to look for that and thanks for the get well wishes. Sipping a cup of chicken broth now..feels good on my throat.

This site is a good overview: http://www.abuseandrelationships.org/

Not related to abuse exactly, but as an anti-abuse book "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" is amazing! (Protip: It works for adults too!) http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889

Hope you get well soon!

'The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists'. I found the chapter: 'If he only had a heart' perfectly described my marriage.

Get well soon!

Hey Joanie, I think you may be referring to "The Four Agreements," which is a wise read. Don't assume, don't take things personally, be impeccable with your words and do your best.

I don't really have any suggestions but did want to ask what you thought about, "The Jerk Radar?" Just finished the "look at" on Amazon and it sounds pretty good. Worth the purchase?

Joanie I love to window shop on Amazon. I actually probably spend too much money on books there b/c they are fast with shipping and have such a wide selection. Even if you don't buy anything, it's a good place to get ideas before you go browsing libraries and book stores! I had no idea there were so many books on abuse.

Ltwist..I purchased The Jerk Radar as I had met Stephen McCrea on the Hidden Hurt website that I believe is UK based. It is back up and running and he emailed me a link to it. We use to correspond via email and he was so helpful to me. I was also friends with him on Facebook but currently have my account deactivated while I am trying to focus on healing. I liked the book and found it helpful. It is along the lines of Bundys but geared towards trying to catch abuse early on. Has a real good quiz in the back in which I took that I wish I had earlier and with the score I got from my last ex I would of run for the hills before I was emotionally invested.

Oh and yes that book was The Four Agreements. :)

Thank you everyone for your suggestions.

I'm reading one now, titled.. "Nasty People" by Jay Carter, Psy.D.

I'm finding it useful

The emotionally destructive marriage by Leslie Vernick. She has YouTube videos about different parts of the book. I found this to be spot on and she gives very specific advice on responding to an abusive type husband.

I'm reading another Lundy book "should I stay or should I go" that is also very helpful. YouTube videos by "delusion dispelled". She mainly talks about narcissism but has hundreds of topics regarding that.

OT but if your throat is sore some good advice I've heard and works we'll is gargle with warm salt water. Really helps!!!

Thank you everyone for your suggestions and get well wishes. I have made a list of them and hope to get to a book store this weekend if I feel better.