Lock your bedroom door (and your windows), close the blinds, put something heavy in front of the bed room door, turn on the tv or radio, have the dog (if you have one) sleep with you, write in a journal about your fears, call a friend and talk until your too tired to stay awake...

I had a terrible time sleeping when my husband was deployed last year, every noise would wake me up...those are a few of the things that helped me....

Best of Luck :)

Take good care.

You might want to spend some time writing down in a journal the reasons that you broke up with your partner. When you get lonely and feel like you miss her - if you do - take out your journal and read it. That helped me a great deal when I divorced my husband.

I finally did get to sleep. As pathetic as it sounds, one of the things she didn't take was her pillow, and I hugged that as I went to sleep. I woke up with my stomach filled with acid and I'm sure there were troubling dreams, which thankfully, I don't remember.

I had tried again and again and again to tell her that I couldn't take the emotional abuse and that I needed affirmation of her "love" on a regular basis, but she just kept pushing me away.

Good job Henry. Keep her out of your life for good, no matter how much she claims she changed ( she didn't).

You just know when you can't take it anymore. Now decide to never, ever take it again.

Very glad to hear you are free. Sleep will become easier and easier as you heal....

Try not to think about the past,,,,or contemplate the future. Stay in the present moment and relish the peace....

Hugs to you....

You have received some good advice on this board. My advice would be to definately keep this woman out of your life. As time goes by, it will get better but make sure you are doing some things that you enjoy and surround yourself with good supportive people (family, friends co-workers, pastors etc....)

It's sorta of like when company leaves and house feels empty and having others as live entertainment being abrupty gone.
I can even sence in my sle-e-p when my dogs exit the bed and lays in ft rm instead of bd rm with me.
It took me aprox a mo to get use to slee-ping alone so I allowed my dogs in bed.
I took up hobby and went for sightseeing drives, which helped and I started socializeing more w my friends and will I rather enjoyed cook outs w them and thier friends and makeing new friends and interviewing and selecting new friends and visiting library on reg bases. I enjoy books on CD which I listen to when driveing.
I detest bowling but it helped fill the void untel I refilled that part of my life.
I so love my church buddys. And occassional someone will show up at public tennis court next to basket ball count and we'll play and others will show up to play. yep if you opt you can schedule morning with such strangers to meet at courts to play ball and befor you know it you have filled at leasy 1 morning a wk and are in process of selecting new friends.
You can also obtain online buddys. I read my in box e's and the following morning I reply to e mails. I also have friends around the world that I chat w on line.
If you opt you could creat your own space on web site " My Space" - which can be time consumming. I often dont reply to blogs because on my space page - will - that would be a full time job in itself.
I like DS for many reasons and 1 being that main topic is not sex as like other groups and chat rms.

Its basically filling the space in our life that someone had once filled.

I love music and danceing thoughout my home as I go about doing housework.
Often I listening to ipod while shopping or while having my nails done or tires replaced on my car.
Iv lived alone most of my life by my own choise and I wouldnt have it any other way.
I enjoy company but will yep I will set them out w the cat,lol.

Take care and be good to yourself for yourself and for us on DS.

Pisst subway subs are tastey and great price at $5.00 for 12 inch sub. which 1 sub covers my dinner and following day lunch :)
Its nice to have food still in refg that Iv been looking forward to comsumeing when I return home. Aw, the wonderful benifits of liveing alone w my dogs.