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I don't know how to leave my sons father

vicky1988
vicky1988

im 29 , today I had a huge fight with my sons father because of the way I stated my option on a sensitive subject , immigration , he got so angry that he started yelling at me and he said he wanted to punch me on my fat fucking face and then punched me in my arm , I fought back and hit him... out son was watching and he started to cry... I don't live with him so he told me to leave , we were in the middle of a blizzard in NY... he told me how much he hates me , even though he had just told me the day before how much he loved me , we have been on and off for the past 2 years and I don't know how to leave him.... when I'm mean and I don't care he's good and nice to me and he wins me back and when I'm back he treats me like shit... I'm so unhappy... 

settingboundaries
settingboundaries
You pack your bags, grab your son and leave. Anyone who threatens is not safe person to live with and it will only get worse, especially since he already hit you. If you are afraid for your safety, call the police. Find a women's shelter or a friend to stay with, a place he cannot reach you at, to give yourself distance and time to to reevaluate the situation.

Leaving is the hardest thing to do. But undoing the damage caused by the abuse you will most likely endure if you stay makes for a very long road to recovery. (I wish I left my abuser sooner.) You deserve to be respected. You deserve peace. You deserve to be happy. If you don't do it for yourself, then please do it for your son.
I'm sorry to read your story, but I know from experience time and distance will make things more clear and you will gain strength for yourself and your son. Much love and respect.
blueraincoat123
blueraincoat123
Leave, I did it once, so can you. You have support here and there are domestic violence hubs in the city, where I live as well. You can do it.
h.e.a.l.
h.e.a.l.
This number:

718-439-1000

is the women's center
for New York City. If
you're not in NYC,
they'll be able to
give you the number
to call of the center
where you live.

Please call them.

Hitting back at an
abuser only sets
you up for even
worse consequences.
Staying guarantees
increasing abuse.

Your son is obviously
in pain seeing you
abused. Further, he
will learn what he's
living.

Leaving isn't easy
and can be dangerous.
That's why you need
support to be able to
make it happen SAFELY.

Your abuser is already
physically abusive. If
you stay, he WILL get
WORSE. He WILL
eventually, punch
you in the face. . .
and eventually he
won't stop there.

Your child needs
you. He needs
his mother to be
healthy and happy.

Please call that number
TODAY.