Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Well. It has only been three nights that he has not been there. And it definitely has not been no contact. But I am standing by my decision. Last night he texted me numerous times telling me of his love for me, and how I am a sad person but he is so patient with me, and how he just cannot help the way he feels. I either didn't respond, or responded with a completely neutral topic. I knew today he would be angry because I didn't fall for it and give in, and I was right. It feels good in a way to start to be able to see through things and predict his next move. It doesn't hurt less, and I am sure I will have many days of doubt, but today I can see his game.
making progress
on your journey.
I hope going forward,
you'll consider going
completely
NO CONTACT.
Responding even
"neutrally," is
ultimately playing
into his hands.
The fact that he
is ignoring your
"no" in regards
to relationship
marks him as
DANGEROUS.
Please consider
cutting contact
totally. Yes, he
may be angry
which means
that you need
to be careful.
If you feel you
may need a
restraining order
then please
consider getting
one.
Stay safe and
take good care.
As an analogy, by responding to him and/or by 'just' reading texts/emails or listening to voicemail w/o responding, it's like you're walking thru a door marked "plague" and exposing yourself to the lethal 'germs.'
The more you hear or read him saying negative things about you, the more damage is being done and the longer it will take to recover.
It does get easier the longer you stay total No Contact.
I also agree w/everything else Ilene said. Please take good care of yourself. You deserve to live an abuse-free life.
It's for YOU.
He's going to text, call, and try to contact you....
If you want him gone, you don't contact him back.
I wish I had done that!
Standing your ground is the best you can do for yourself.
Good luck.
"No contact" from an abuser is like patience, it is its own reward.
Don't even respond to his nonsense. NO CONTACT.
Eventually, he'll tire and go onto his next victim.
Hugs.