Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
when i was 3-5 i was abused by my dads best friend name Endy (pronunced like Andy). and now Endy is back in my life and i can't make him leave me along. its been too long to charge him and i never told my family what happened. to this day they all love Endy and don't understand why i don't. hes coming to my house soon and im scared. what if he trys something again? what if they leave me alone with him? what the hell do i do? i sometimes talk to my bf about it but then he gets really upset cuz he can't help me. i dont want him to get hurt soo i tell him to let me handle it. but i need help, and idk what to do. (sighs) i can't go thro this again.
just so you know, when i was 5 i told my dad what Endy had been doing to me. he left our house and a week later my dad killed himself. Endy told me it was my fault. i was 5 for fuck sake! i believed him :(
just so you know, when i was 5 i told my dad what Endy had been doing to me. he left our house and a week later my dad killed himself. Endy told me it was my fault. i was 5 for fuck sake! i believed him :(
I get the impression you live with your family, so if that's the case then maybe it would be the right time to tell them what happened and why you don't want to ever have to be around that monster again and that you won't, you won't be there when he arrives and you won't return until after he's gone.
If you don't live with your family, you are not obligated to even speak to him, let alone see him. you have a roght to protect yourself and your property. you don't have to answer the door unless you want to let him know he's not welcome on your property and if he ever returns you will call the police.
I can't think of anything more heinous than blaming a child for their parents death. You are not to blame and never were.
I tried for years to tell him, do not stop by, do not drop in to say hi, do not come over period. Do not call me, do not text me, do not stop me in the parking lot at the grocery store to say hi. NO CONTACT! And he wouldn't listen. I tried lying too, can't come in, I have the flu (cough, cough) oh, sorry, I ddin't see you at the store. Nope, my phone isn't working, thanks for stopping by to see if I was ok, please leave now. After he dropped in to visit one time and I found myself running from him wielding a kitchen knife to keep him from touching me, it was my breaking point, I did my research. He's spent two nights in jail, and I haven't heard from him since.
Hope that helps!
Do what is BEST for YOURSELF. You can do it.