Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
He has been moving for a few days. My 17 year old said he tried kissing her and I know he hugged and bit her 18 year old friend on the ear. He says it was the zipper on his shirt. He says they are lying sluts and I am believing them over him. He says in 11 years this is the first time this has happened. I reminded him about when _ _ _ was staying with us and she started sleeping with everyone in the house. He swears he never did even thou I found a letter he wrote her describing all the things he wanted to do to her. It started out with him and our 16 year old nieghbor then she came in and took over. Then there was my best friend of 20 years that called me at work and said he was in her room asking to do things to her. Of course he says she is a liar and slut. Then there are drugs, hiding money, lying, his son molesting my grand dtr. Years of verbal abuse and put downs. Now he calls me tonite to thank me for making him sleep in his car with no blanket. He is freezing because I wont believe him. I said he was welcome to come get a blanket but he says no he'll just die. A part of me wants to go across town late at niht to where I think he is to see if he really is. My friend said No that is giving him power.; I know she is right but how do I deal with his guilt trip
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
In the one brief paragraph you shared with us, it would appear that this many is the perpetrator of truly awful acts.
You deal with his latest one. . . . . "doing the guilt trip" thing. . . . . by
DISCONNECTING.
He's an abuser. I understand he may have been in your life a long time, but if you want to be done with his abuse ------ then DISCONNECT.
There are ways to facilitate disconnecting. No one imagines it will be easy. But now it's time. DISCONNECT!!!!!!!!!!!!
Basically ------ who cares WHAT he's doing????????
He's an abuser. DISCONNECT. Let him do whatever he wants to do ------- far, far away from you and anyone you care about.
DISCONNECT.
You deal with his guilt trip by reminding yourself that he's a sexual predator, his son is a sexual predator. You must always pick your children and grandchildren over people like this.
Stay focused on protecting yourself and your daughter. Don't let him victimize you any longer. Be done with this predator!!!
good luck, and do not let him guilt trip you. my grandma not believing my aunts about her bf's abuse has led at least 3 of her daughters to major life issues, trauma, abusive relationships. believe your daughter.
it is really important for her to get some kind of counseling after something like this. a trusted adult making sexual advances at her is major. help her heal. you can do it. we all experience hard times, and we can't prevent everything or be without mistakes. its how we deal with those hard times that builds who we are. heal together, mother and daughter as a family, and you will be stronger for it. it is crucial and vital that you show her that this man will not be tolerated, and he is not worthy of being any where near either of you two strong, beautiful, wise women. let alone children.
Hugs and Good luck to you. Vent here. We will help you.
did he ever ,through all these years, felt guilty for you when he abused you.
remember each event he abused you & your grand daughter, not once in them he felt the guilt for either of you.