Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
He plays the head games. one day I love u. one day messin with you. I have held out for over a month of not having sex and saying I am finished. I have asked him to move and he says when he gets around to it. I asked him to move out of the bed and he says NO. he is sleeping in the bed not sleeping with me. He has starting to push the sex issue and is very sweet in bed but If I dont give in he is an ass to me the next day. so now he has informed me he is changing to total ass. so I have choices give in and put up with it or be treated even more like shit. I try to talk to him but he changes it back to I am the problem. He wants me to change but wont tell me what to change. He is always telling me how stupid he is to be with me. so now I am getting the silent treatment maybe that is a blessing
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I'm in the same boat. I haven't been with my husband AT ALL this year {well it's just 3/5}, but still. Witholding has given me a new outlook on my life and given me ALOT of self confidence. My H says that I am trying to control him, yet he cheated when I wasn't witholding. So I said, I'm not controlling you {go get it from somewhere else}. I am only controlling me. The longer I withold, the more evil he becomes. He ended up moving out of the bedroom {so he can tell his friends that he doesn't want to sleep w/me}, yet in the middle of the night he's tapping on my shoulder asking for something. I roll over and tell him to go away. NO.......Sometimes he gets so angry {like telling me I'm giving it to someone else is really gonna make me give in to him so that he will be convenienced that I am not having an affair. I tell him that no longer works. I don't care what he thinks of me b/c he can no longe define me}. Anyway, he continues to have these temper tantrums {especially when I tell him I need money for our 3 kids and I'm not sleeping with you to get it}. The tantrums do become worse, but it's only b/c they know they are losing control. I thought about giving in for therapy, but he wasn't interested, so I went ahead and retained an attorney. It isn't going to get any better, so I might as well put an end to it.
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The silent treatment is a form of abuse...we call it "blanking" us. But truth be told....I grew to appreciate it when it came, it was way better than dealing with his drunken rages, or not-so-drunken ones. He'll probably look for another venue to abuse you if he realized you don't mind.
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