Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I let him go. I was so miserably unhappy. I was so tired of the anger and the names and never being able to please him. The physical intimidation and sexual demands. It was awful and the more time I have to myself the more I think about it. Being cornered in the pantry and screamed at. Being woken up when he came home drunk by being hit with a pillow, or a pillow held over me or pushed out of bed. His constant need for attention was like having a full grown toddler.
Why, why why then am I so upset that he already has someone new??? In three weeks time!! I hate that he is putting on an act like he did with me. I hate that he is making me out to be a monster. I want to hate her but why? She is just a woman looking for love like I was. I can only hope she is more confident and does not ignore the red flags as I did...and there were plenty. I know he won't...but what if he DOES treat her good??
My confidence is in the toilet. I have been called such ugly things. Told I'll never find anyone that will put up with me. Told I don't know how to be a real woman. I want to not care about him at all...but I do and it sends my anxiety through the roof.
When does it feel better?
Everything you're feeling
is both typical and normal.
He will NOT treat her better.
And in fact, that he "moved on"
so quickly, is another indicator
of his dysfunctional psyche.
Healing takes time.
For many of us, therapy
has shortened the time
it would have taken
without it. Are you
currently in counseling?
If not, would you consider it?
Sending you hugs
and wishes for healing.