Telling their victim that she (or he) is too sensitive and/or too emotional is a standard strategy used by abusers. It's a lie intended to divert and deflect attention and blame away from their being abusive.

Whether your self-regard/self-worth is low just at this moment or has always been an issue, now is the moment to address this and work to build and strengthen it. One way to begin is to find a counselor whose specialty is recovery from abuse.

Another tool to build self-worth is to focus on what makes you feel happy and worthwhile and to do lots of that. Over time, this builds self-regard.
Moving away from living with abuse to living abuse-free, is a challenge and a journey.

Sending you hugs
and wishes for
healing and
happiness.

Thank you h.e.a.l.. I am working on finding a counselor. I have an appointment with my family doctor. I have seen her for other issues and talked on length about what happened. She is wonderful and offered to go through a list of counselors my insurance covers and help me find one that through her experience will be good for what I need. It's a daily struggle for sure. I make sure to talk to my family everyday. I am reconnecting with old friends who are being overwhelmingly supportive. It's hard to feel so damaged sometimes though. Its as if I almost don't even know what I would enjoy doing. The past four years have been all him.

I'm so sorry you're going through such awful self-doubt (and everything else that comes w/abuse). A simplified way of describing what happened is that he brainwashed you, just as most abusers brainwash their victims.

I'm glad that your dr will be helping you find a therapist. Ask her to recommend only those who are certified in trauma release/recovery, have extra training in the dynamics and effects of abuse. Sadly many therapists are not.

Here is a link to some questions to ask a potential therapist. They are based on what I've learned in my training and my personal experiences after going to a number of therapists/counselors who caused more harm than good.

I agree w/h.e.a.l. 100%.
One of the things I did after I left was to make a list of things that I used to like. Then I made a list of things I might be interested in. I took some of the free online interest tests. I volunteered doing things I enjoyed doing. I took adult ed classes. I started doing a hobby I hadn't done in years. I was so used to doing what he wanted/liked that it took a good while to figure out what I wanted/liked. Create a vision board or write a letter to the universe asking for what you want. You might change them every day, but that's ok. Just take the time to get to know and love YOU!!

Please allow yourself however much time you need to figure things out. Honor, allow & feel your feelings w/o judgment. Journaling can be helpful too.

And keep practicing extreme self-care. ~healing hugs~