Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi, I live with a very controlling man . ( Am currently developing a plan to leave ) . My social worker says on a scale of 1 to 10, he's about a 12.5. (Yes, she's met him ) . I was on facebook a couple of days ago and found the perfect response for him. I laughed at the wording of it, then realized how true it is. I'm sharing it here :
1) to see if it applies to others , and
2) perhaps give someone a smile
I am in NO way condoning control, believe me. I just thought this was an apt response for the next time he tells me how to behave. (I doubt I'll say it ) It's just a couple of sentences, but I can see Mark nod and give me a piece of paper . Here it is: (I'm saying) -
"Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize you're an expert on my life and how I should live it. Please continue while I take notes".
(The trouble is he has a spreadsheet on my behavior. He'll just print it out!) - Holly
1) to see if it applies to others , and
2) perhaps give someone a smile
I am in NO way condoning control, believe me. I just thought this was an apt response for the next time he tells me how to behave. (I doubt I'll say it ) It's just a couple of sentences, but I can see Mark nod and give me a piece of paper . Here it is: (I'm saying) -
"Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize you're an expert on my life and how I should live it. Please continue while I take notes".
(The trouble is he has a spreadsheet on my behavior. He'll just print it out!) - Holly
The one time I did laugh at my ex for something really stupid, I learned the hard way to regret it.
Keep the sense of humour, but stay safe. :-)