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Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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tonyaabernathy 09/29/2011

He got the papers today,I have been nervous of what he might do but nothing so far.I am so happy to be here finally.This has been such a long road for me to get to this place.You wouldn't believe it was me that actually filed for the divorce, but I did.I am proud of myself, because he has controlled me for so long that I haven't really made any major decisions really, probably since I married him 25 years ago.He loves to make all decisions and be in control of every thing.This has been so huge for me to do,because it is going against what he wants .I have made a decision and have stuck with it without his consent! So I am looking forward to having a life that I am in control of and not him.Not having him control where I go, who I am with.How much money I spend.Tell me what a bad wife, Mother,everything I am.Not hearing him tell me to shut up all the time,and tell me how stupid I am.Not hearing him belittle me all the time to everyone and in front of my children.Gosh as I type this, so much is coming to mind and I am feeling so much better at the thought of a life of freedom from all the mental abuse that I have lived with for so long. Thanks friends for all the support I do believe that I would never have gotten the courage without all of your inspiration and your support while going through the process of making the decision to do this .I know I am going to need you guys much more but this feels so good right now just to be in this place.

Livndadrem 09/30/2011

Congrats to you. Feels good to actually make a decision, doesn't it?

And more importantly, well done for listening to your gut and doing what you know to be best.

deleted_user 09/30/2011

Congratulations for taking your life back. You OWN it! Not him! Yay!

You have more strength than you know. The more you practice your empowerment, the more free you will feel. It's a great natural high!

I'm smiling for ya!

deleted_user 09/30/2011

You are clearly, and so totally, awesome. Keep on keepin on my dear. Whada's right; this feeling strengthens you and makes you more likely to make healthful-YOUful decisions that bring you closer to your authentic self, free of pain and full of YOUness. :)

IleneW 09/30/2011

Good for you, Hon!
Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You'll find that you'll grow
stronger and stronger, as
you pull more and more of
your power, back inside yourself.

Way to go!

katherine65 09/30/2011

I just filled out mine for my lawyer this week, too!! And couldn't decide whether to check the box for Separation (when he drove me from my house and kids by physically threatening me daily), Adultery (because I found out he had a girlfriend in Florida for over 2 years) or Cruelty (for almost all the reasons you stated - sounds exactly like my life for the past 23 years) - so, I checked them all and explained. He will freak out when he receives it - but I no longer care about that. I have also requested a restraining order - he won't like that either!

Well done, girl!! We did it! and our new lives are underway!

Livndadrem 09/30/2011

Katherine - love it! Tick all the boxes, and bugger what he thinks! :-)

rachelrachel 09/30/2011

holy crap

what a lot of strong women here.

gogogiz 09/30/2011

:D :D :D :D :D
big big smiles!! yay!!
good going, i'm happy that you are happy!

tonyaabernathy 10/02/2011

Thank you ladies for the support!! This is hard, but I am so ready for this to be over. So looking forward to some peace in my life.

deleted_user 10/09/2011

Yay, tonya! You have come such a long way! Congratulations!

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