Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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I am asking this because at the moment i have so many health issues right now and i am planning to leave soon.
i am going to have to find a job to make sure i can keep the flat / apartment i have been given.
At the moment theres no way i could hold down a job because half the time i spend in bed tired out , stress i know.......... also my immune system doesnt work and i tend to get whatevers going round....so im constantly ill at the moment.
but has anyone left and found that their health has greatly improved?
Thanks
xx
i am going to have to find a job to make sure i can keep the flat / apartment i have been given.
At the moment theres no way i could hold down a job because half the time i spend in bed tired out , stress i know.......... also my immune system doesnt work and i tend to get whatevers going round....so im constantly ill at the moment.
but has anyone left and found that their health has greatly improved?
Thanks
xx
Every night, when I lived with him, at least the last 5 years...when I went to bed, my heart would be pounding in my chest. Beating irregularly. I prayed every night that I would not have a heart attack before morning, because I was terrified of leaving my son to fend for himself with his father. We had no insurance, so I never went to a dr about it, because we had no money to pay a dr.
The first night I left....the very first night...that stopped. And it has never come back.
I've been out 5 years now. I haven't even had a cold in over 2 years.
Yeah, your health gets better. STress creates all kind of health problems. Dangerous ones. Not having someone trying to steal your soul every minute of every day is a real boost to your health.
It was so hard to sleep near a monster!
While I was with him, I started getting all kinds of problems.
I got things like pink eye and ear infections -- hadn't had that stuff since I was a child! It got to the point that I always had either a cold, a pink eye, laryngitis, headaches, a bladder infection, or a flu. Always.
He was almost never sick, but would give me his sweat suit to wear, to "sweat out" the illness. I remember wearing that thing for weeks.
STRANGELY, once I left I wasn't sick at all. Not even a cold for 3 months. But I was extremely stressed, and I could feel my body was just trying to hold it together.
I did start getting sick again recently, but I think just due to all the stress needing to get out. (just signed the divorce stuff too).
I do believe that once I'm fully over it, I will be perfectly healthy again.
I also had that heart beating thing before bed. I would instantly feel anxiety when I tried to sleep. I used to ask him to just say the words "It will be ok" to me. So he'd repeat it like a parrot, and I'd try to believe it.
Now I never have to repeat anything like that, even when things are bad.
It was always being in that state of fear.
I was being bullied at work. The "in" person made anyone who did not go along and worship them a living nightmare.
It was always "innocent" jokes and sarcastic comments. When I mentioned they were hurtful I was accused of being "sensitive". Then the person gossiped with someone. I did not sleep more than 4 hours a night for three weeks until I quit.
Stress like that is really bad. Ever heard of the Monday morning heart attacks?