Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
This counselor, I have seen her 3 times in 6 years, through a domestic violence agency. We've had minor issues. This time as I shared last week, she suggested a break if I don't decide to end this relationship in the next month, because she has to report to her supervisor, and I am not being "helped" if I continue to stay.
Some women stay decades. I've been in this relationship a year and a half, progressively more off than on, back and forth. I got on the counseling waiting list in June last year, and went to a drop in support group until December, and have seen counselor semi regularly since then, with a few breakups since. I am leaning towards wanting to leave him, but still indecisive. It takes what it takes for me to come to that conclusion. I cancelled counseling appointment, telling her I am still processing what she said and I'm not sure what to share about and I dont' want to disagree with her. My trust has been hurt, and I don't really agree with it, but understand their scope is limited.
Asking for anyone who can relate to a similar counseling experience. Thanks.
Some women stay decades. I've been in this relationship a year and a half, progressively more off than on, back and forth. I got on the counseling waiting list in June last year, and went to a drop in support group until December, and have seen counselor semi regularly since then, with a few breakups since. I am leaning towards wanting to leave him, but still indecisive. It takes what it takes for me to come to that conclusion. I cancelled counseling appointment, telling her I am still processing what she said and I'm not sure what to share about and I dont' want to disagree with her. My trust has been hurt, and I don't really agree with it, but understand their scope is limited.
Asking for anyone who can relate to a similar counseling experience. Thanks.
The one red flag I see, is are you in physical danger? Although I don't agree with her methods, I do agree with her determination to separate you from him if that is the case. She should know that "tough love" is NEVER an appropriate method for dealing with abuse victims.
My advice would be to evaluate your situation and your personal safety. If you being alive and intact tomorrow means that you have to leave him tonight - right now, then by all means do everything in your power to do so. Otherwise ask to be assigned to a different therapist.