Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I am dating for the first time since my divorce and my ex is fuming. He has had several gf's but now has to harrass me since i started dating. My ex is frequently txting me about him...if i'm with him, have we had sex, calls him a loser. He threatens to me that he will beat him up. He has followed him from my house to his to see where he lives (since heis around our 15 yr. old son, he says). He just txt me that he is outside his apartment building right now and txt me "should I?" My ex is forcefully insisting that i give him his last name so he can run a police check on him. I dont want to give it to him as i feel he will really use it to harass me or him more. He says he will bring me to court if I dont and insists our 15 yr old son not be around him. There is absolutely no reason for him to think there is something wrong with this guy and I would not send my son with him alone anyway. I have been dating him for 2 months. I see no warning signs. This guy has been super respectful to me. Not a N like my ex, not abusive, I've met his grown children, he gets along with his ex. Does anyone know if i have to give him his last name? Can he force me to get a police check on everyone I date? It's not like my son is 5.
If your ex expects you to submit to him, then he needs to give you total info. on his fly-by-night girlfriends! Fair is fair!
He is being abusive and being a bully. He's threatening harm on your bf who is an innocent party here. I belive there is a law or two to protect your bf from that.
If you give in to the ex on his demands, they will escalate. He's just seeing how far he can go. He doesn't respect you or your bf.
Call his bluff about the court thing. Better yet, take your ex to court for harassment and get a restraining order for your bf!
No, you don't give him the name of any man you date. He can't force you to do anything. You are no longer married to him. Tell him to go fly s kite and then quit reading his text. What you should do is talk to a policman or your atty. about this. See what they can do to stop his harassment.
Please document all the erratic, insane behavior for court.
He's threatening your BF? Maybe BF should go get a restraining order to protect himself.
What everyone else has said here is spot on!
this IS CONSIDERED STALKING.
if YOU GIVE HIM ANY MORE INFORMATION THIS WILL ONLY PROMOTE MORE DANGER ON YOUR HALF.
AND DO NOT GIVE HIM HIS LAST NAME.
YOU NEED TO CALL THE POLICE.
Call the police
Call the police
Call the police.
And no he can't force a police check on everyone you date, but if only given the full name of a person you can check for criminal records. Don't listen to your ex, disconnect all phone lines with him including email, and such..... Your ex does not need to know about your personal life. AND THOSE ARE WARNING SIGNS. Warning sings with your ex, call the police, you'll feel alot safer.
Again disconnect all contact with your ex if he is stalking you, why do you still talk to him? (your ex)
Completely ignore the texts concerning your boyfriend, or, as the others have said, contact the police to see if there's room for a harrassment charge.